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They’re people still struggling when it comes to consent . So instead of surrounding it with sex let’s assume you are making them a piece of cake
If you ask “hey do you want a piece of cake” and they say “oh my gosh yes , I’d love a piece of cake” then you know they want cake . If you ask and they say “umm , hmm , I’m not sure” then you can cut them a slice but understand they may not want it and if they don’t want it then don’t make them eat it just because you cut it and put it on a plate doesn’t mean they’re entitled to eat it .
If you ask and they say “No thank you” , don’t cut them a piece of cake , at all, just don’t cut them a piece of cake. Don’t make them eat it, don’t act annoyed because they won’t eat it, they just don’t want a piece of cake.
Now , they could say “yes please” but when the cake finally comes out they may say “actually no I don’t want cake” , yes it is annoying because you made the effort to make it but they remain under no obligation to eat the piece of cake. They wanted cake and now they don’t , some people change in the time it took to frost the cake , and place fruits on the cake, and slice the cake, and that’s okay, you’re still not entitled to watch them eat the cake.
Now if the person is unconscious, don’t cut them a piece of cake , unconscious people can’t eat cake and they can’t answer the question if they’d like cake because they’re unconscious, maybe the were when you asked them and they said yes but in the time it took to frost the cake , and place fruits on the cake, and slice the cake they became unconscious and now they can’t eat cake . Don’t force them to eat the cake instead make sure they’re okay and safe. They wanted cake but now they don’t. If they started eating cake and then passed out don’t keep on making them eat cake take it away and make sure they’re safe. They are unconscious, don’t give them cake.
If they said they wanted cake at your house two weeks ago , that doesn’t mean you can make cake all the time, they also don’t want you showing up and making them cake unexpectedly, and forcing them to eat it saying “but you wanted cake last week” or you them waking up with cake in their face saying “but you wanted cake last night” , you have to understand how ridiculous it is to try to force people to eat cake when they don’t want cake. If you can understand the concept of why forcing people to eat cake is not okay then why can’t all people apply this when it comes to consent and sex. A firm yes is a yes , and a yes is consent . Inspiration from http://youtu.be/oQbei5JGiT8

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When I was five I realized that it’s impossible for a stork to fly down and leave a baby at my parent’s doorstep, or babies come out of mother’s bellybuttons. I was a curious child, always asking a million questions about everything. So when the topic came of where my little sister “came from” my mother told me these common unrealistic stories. She has told me she only did this for two main reasons, the fact I was so young, and also my “maturity level” at the time. She believed telling me how babies were made and the idea of sex, Id look at my vagina and be terrified. I probably would be terrified at the time, but I soon later found out on my own and eventually had the talk with my parents. But what happens to the kids who don’t have the sex talk with their parents and have no sex education in school?

Teens will have sex eventually in life, whether they wait till marriage or not. The consequence of not discussing such an integral part of life often has the opposite of the intended effect. According to the poll Let’s talk: Are Parents Tackling Crucial conversations about Sex? 57% of parents are uncomfortable having discussions about sex and the topics surrounding it with their kids. 94% of parents feel they have the power to influence their teen’s sexual choices, so why are so many parents reluctant to have these important conversations?

Most schools have some kind of sex education whether it is an absence only program, or comprehensive sex education, parents still should not rely on the school system to teach sex education. Many parents leave it to the school system because they’re just uncomfortable talking about sex. Some parents and their parents may have not have had the sex talk. Mostly because society in previous generations has not been as open with the sex talk compared to now. The main problem is how can teens be expected to talk with their parents about sex, or even to trust their parents with sensitive information, if parents make it clear that they are not comfortable discussing sex? Discussing sex is a part of starting an open communication with your child from a young age, and having a parent to talk with about sex and birth control in your teen years can eliminates many dangers, such as false or harmful information gleaned from peers, neglect of protective measures, and attempting to solve serious problems alone such as an unwanted pregnancy or an STD.

Parents’ providing their child with what THEY want them to know about sex is very important, rather than depending on someone else who could be giving them misleading and inaccurate information. Talking openly and honestly, answers your child’s questions, and seizes opportunities to help them make smart decisions about their relationships and behavior can help your child out dramatically. You have some parents who encourage their children to wait until marriage; others tell their children that they can make their own decisions as long as they are safe, and the some who never talk to their kids at all. Yet at the end of the day parents all want the same things for their children when it comes to sex; for them to be safe, happy, and protected.

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Going to Tallahassee was a great experience. From the beginning i saw all of us working together and that had never really happened before, so it was quite a great experience. What stuck to me the most was that we did a mock session in the Senate chamber and it was awesome. Out of the whole trip my favorite part was talking to the Senate’s because that had me laughing and i had some things in common with some of them. Im glad that we had some co-sponsors for our bill and that makes us one step closer to our goal.

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This blog is in response to: http://scpbc.blog.palmbeachpost.com/2016/01/12/wake-up-its-time-to-rally/

Last week I was privileged to speak at the Awake the State rally among others who spoke out against fracking, for raising the minimum wage to $15, immigration reform and health care expansion. I spoke about a comprehensive sexual health education policy that the Palm Beach Youth Leadership Council is going to lobby for in Tallahassee. We also also creating a policy to propose to the Palm Beach County School Board. PBYLC is made up of ten Palm Beach County high school and college student and we believe that young people deserve comprehensive, medically accurate, age appropriate sexual health education to make the decisions that are best for them. People think that if we give youth accurate information about sexual health, they will have sex. It has actually been proven that they wait longer to be sexually active when given the accurate information.


Florida now has the highest number of new HIV cases in the US; Florida does not require high school students to receive health education, which would include HIV prevention. Young people have a right to know how to properly protect themselves from STIs. Please sign our petition if you support comprehensive sexual health education in Palm Beach County schools. http://bit.ly/1S6PZxA

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I for sure used to always glam up and thought of the Teenage Dream as something that everyone dreamed of living as we all passed through our youth . However what is the teenage dream really implying? Many , though not all, of our youth see it as a fun scene in which no adults are around, people are drinking, cracking jokes, dancing, and “falling in love”.
Half of these teens “in love” though seem to be blinded by reality as they act, and choose their next decisions or moves.
There have been many incidents in which many guys have gotten together to plan such attacks . They drug up the girl, make her drink until she can barely walk, one of the guy take her upstairs, and manipulation starts.
In this situation let’s say the girl gives in, she says yes to intercourse. Under any state law because she’s under the influence this is illegal and considered rape. Even though the person you are with has said yes this is still not okay, because the person is not 100% soberly conscience to give consent.
This also applies to long term couples who are sexually active. Even though a couple has had sexual intercourse before with their partner, and they know that they would be okay with each other having intercourse, this law still applies.
The overall concept of having sexual intercourse when under any influence is that it works like consent it has to be a firm yes, the person has to not be impaled in any way, the person must not be budging and playing around like he/she doesn’t want it.
With the teenage dream comes groups and hundreds of teens and youth across the nation going out and experiencing this atmospheres.
The National Crime Victimization Survey (NCVS), run by the Bureau of Justice Statistics, estimates that there were about 174,000 victims of rapes and sexual assaults in 2012 (and nearly 350,000 total rapes), turns out that almost 50 percent of the rapes reported by the survey depend on this drunk/high/lack of consent. More than 9 percent of the women, which adds up to an estimated 11.2 million people, were classified as rape victims.
Again even when a person is unable to give consent to sex or stop it from happening due to them being drunk/high/drugged, or passed out from alcohol/drugs/medications, understand that yes they voluntarily consumed but please remember that even if someone uses alcohol or drugs, what happens to them is not their fault. Analysts believe that many cases have never been reported due to the stigma and blame accusations to the victims, so it’s good to encourage a friend to speak up. Sure the teenage dream might sound adventurous but always think ahead of what can really be the outcome of having a little too much fun. In some cases, these scenarios can be even life threatening so I encourage you to research more. I for sure openly encourage my friends to be aware of their surrounding and really get to know the people around them for future reference.

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The argument for sex education in schools is a familiar one. First: Abstinence-only programs have been rigorously evaluated, and they don’t work. Second: Young people have a right to information to protect their health. Third: Comprehensive sex ed delays sex and promotes the use of contraception and condoms among those teens having sex, thereby reducing the rates of unintended pregnancy and sexually transmitted infections (STIs), including HIV. The disconcerting truth is that while curricula that teach “comprehensive sex ed” easily outperform those that preach abstinence only, they still often fall short.

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                    Female Genital mutilation/cutting

“Female genital mutilation (FGM), also known as female genital cutting and female circumcision, is the ritual removal of some or all of the external female genitalia.” Genital mutilation has been around since B.C, yet many countries have stopped this procedure such as Europe and America. The fact that it’s still happening in other countries in this current time is honestly shocking and frightening. (FGM) has been outlawed or restricted in most of the countries in which it occurs still, but the laws are poorly enforced and still continues on within behind closed doors. It is all over the world, such as Africa, the middle east, and Asia. Twenty nine countries in Africa are still using (FGM) to this day..

The process varies from culture to culture, but the procedure is very severe. Shock due to pain, and severe bleeding or infections kill 3,000 girls each year. Many girls are as young as five or six but it can vary up to fifteen years old. More than 125 million girls and women alive today have been victims in countries like Africa and Middle East where (FGM) it is mainly concentrated, yet the odds that there’s more than 125 million girls are very high. Mutilation is not so much of a religious factor, but it is more of a tradition. It is known to protect a girl’s virginity such as staying pure for marriage, but also to control sexual desires with masturbation as a girl will go throughout puberty. Other factors consist of the girls vagina being “dirty” if the labia is not removed, or that this procedure brings upon a girl’s adulthood, or even that it helps the girl to get her identity and personality. This process is supposed to teach the girl her role in society and in life, such as in societies in which the man controls the women’s sexuality when married.

Recurrent infections, chronic pain, cysts, an inability to get pregnant, complications during childbirth, and fatal bleeding are just some of the long terms of this procedure. Physiological effects may be post-traumatic stress disorder, anxiety and depression. Being a young teen girl myself I would hate to be put in that position of having this procedure. There are no benefits of this procedure, just harm and pure torture. It is an extreme form of discrimination against women, and also violating these young girls rights as children, and their health, security and physical integrity.

There has been many ways to help prevent Female genital mutilation by the united nations, activists,campaigns, organizations, and also charities such as Unicef that have helped bring awareness of (FGM) and help stop this horrible crime and torture. The main concern is that these young girls and women in these countries have no comprehensive sex education, or no sex education at all, it’s pretty much unspoken of. If these girls were able to get the right sexual education they could stand up and help prevent future generations and other girls from getting this procedure. Comprehensive sex education can show these girls that they have rights over their own body, and learn information about their genitalia and so much more. If you are interested in helping this cause there’s petitions you can sign to help, organizations you can join, or using your voice is one step closer to help make a difference!

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Applications for the Spring 2016 Great American Condom Campaign are open! Apply Today!

We are once again on the quest to find the most bold and visionary college students from around the United States to receive 500 Trojan Brand condoms to distribute on their college campuses.

Each year, GACC members give out over a million Trojan Brand condoms on college campuses across the United States, educate their peers about sexual health, and organize to improve the policies that affect young people’s health and lives.

What kind of ingenious plans will you come up with to distribute them this time? Condom lollipops? Condom scavenger hunt? Condom raffle tickets? Condom demonstration flash mob? Dress up as a giant chicken/duck/goose/platypus laying plastic eggs filled with condoms, candy and fun facts in strategic areas to welcome the spring? THE POSSIBILITIES ARE ENDLESS!

The application deadline is December 31st and it only takes about 10 minutes to fill out.
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Do it for your country.

Ariel Cerrud

Senior Manager, Youth Activist Network

Advocates for Youth

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Sexuality is broader than sexual activity.  It infused with all the things that make us who we are. Shaped by our culture, values, education and experience, our sexuality influences our views of individuality, parenthood, and community.
At an early start, children are exposed to sexual imagines and sexual word play in their environment, and their bodies are experiencing and developing sexual responsiveness. Their curiosity about sex is inevitable, and the answers they get should clarify…not confuse…them from there sexuality.
Adolescence is a very stressful and confusing time as both physical and cognitive aspects of there sexual expression begin to align, and the opportunities for personal decision making expand.  Sexuality begins to be a significant part of relationship experiences. We want those relationships to be healthy and safe, as they are the training ground for life as an adult.

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Parental Connections

Truly I was privileged growing up, my parents from day one were able to talk openly and freely about sex Ed to me, and my younger brother . However It’s not easy for everyone to say the same . I know there are parents out there who find sex Ed to be a hard topic to bring up .
I also have in mind that the biggest population to come onto this site are young people not so much grown parents.

I encourage others to share this with their parents and if not their guardian or whoever may be that person you look up to in order to create a more comfortable area for them. There are many ways of confronting the topic . Though the examples I am to place are only suggestions everyone is welcomed to try different things. Keep in mind “communicating about sexuality is important—positive communication between parents and their children greatly helps young people to establish individual values and to make healthy decisions” ,this quote pulled from Advocates for Youth , demonstrates truly what great outcome can be achieved if approached appropriately.
When a child in young or starting to face society we know that peer pressure can be something hard to deal with because it comes in many ways. Start by teaching our youth that peer pressure is not okay , as for this falls into our sex Ed vocabulary. The topics of “good decisions” and “negotiating of sexual behaviors” all are unpowered by self choices and the power of saying no.
Going further you may like to bring up each child’s body changes based on the gender of birth. Of course you shall always accept what they identify as but for these terms scientific connections work best . Start by talking about what changes to expect , that being their exterior parts and inner changes.
Most adults would like to teach their kids to grow in an abstinence only world , but for prevention of the future it’s good to teach your youth about how to protect themselves and how to prevent getting pregnant or getting someone pregnant if they’re not ready to bare a child. This falls into talking about protection methods and with it you can explain some of the infections and viruses out there for their wellbeing.
Topics that are like these can be simple and truly helpful to our young community in their growth.
Sex can be a hard topic to bring up but it’s better to be prepared then sorry. Not only will this benefit our youth but so will it fill the person explaining because it’s good to know you had something to do with raising our youth to be healthy choice makers.

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Twenty days ago something very important happened in Bulgaria. The new law for pre-school and school education was accepted by the Ministry of Educaion. That’s a very close-to-my-heart theme and the cause I’m fighting for.

The new law proposes that schools may have sexual and reproductive health classes in schools, but it does not mandate that they be obligatory and leaves the decision to individual school principals who may decide for themselves to include this in their school program.

This change in legislation prompted a training and round table hosted by S.M.A.R.T. Foundation (a Bulgarian foundation working with young people) that happened last week, in which I took part in.

The training was on the topics of the Sustainable Development Goals and with a focus on Goals 3, 4 and 5 and how can Bulgaria fulfill them. 15 young people gathered for one day and developed a declaration that stated three things: What do we want? Why do we want it? And when? The answer is simple – We want health education in schools, because we care for the next generations and their access to information. We want it now; not tomorrow, not in 5 years!

The trainers had the task to make these 15 peers from different organizations act like one, united in one cause and stand by it. They had to prepare us for the roundtable with the representatives from the Ministry of Health, Ministry of Foreign Affairs, Ministry of Youth and Sports, Ministry of Education, representatives from different NGOs, experts and psychologists.

At the roundtable we were supposed to present our declaration, defend our ideas and wishes and get the support from all those in attendance. The event went pretty well, because all the representatives liked our idea and they were very passionate about the issue. They have already realized the importance of the problem and when they got to the meeting, already had suggestions of ways to help us. That was very impressive.

But what is a fight without obstacles? The most important institution that had to support our cause, the Ministry of Education, didn’t show. Unfortunately, we can’t do anything without their permission and support. As a mentioned before, the law says that there “might” be SRHR  classes in schools, that means that if the principle initiate it this will happen, but not necessarily. Principles don’t do this because they say their students don’t need that type of classes or that they already know everything from the Biology classes (As a former student in high school, I can confirm that the information we are getting in it is not even half of the important things we should know) or simply, they are waiting for orders from the Regional inspectorate of education, because the inspectorate decides most of the changes that happen in schools.

So, to sum up, the roundtable went very well, because we saw that there are people that support us and that we and our issues matter for them and despite the Ministry of Education we won’t give up chasing our goals. I believe that soon things will start changing and we’ll finally get our SRHR classes in schools. I know there are also other countries with problems like these and with this blog I want to tell them that they are not alone and that they shouldn’t give up, because the day to change all of with will come soon!

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Research and Results

“Since 1997 the federal government has invested more than $1.5 billion dollars in abstinence-only programs – proven ineffective programs which censor or exclude important information that could help young people protect their health.”
As a community, school, and district we are truly missing some of the most valuable lessons we will need for our future. So why is is that there’s little to no funding for Comprehensive Sexual Education. However our “Abstinence Only”
The quote above was directly pulled from the Advocates Page, where we can see how these life long programs have been proven ineffective. Yet our government still chooses to support and continue the use of these programs and “class sessions”.

The truth is the people “running” our systems aren’t doing their jobs, and they’re worried those who are are we the youth. Comprehensive sexual education is a lesson based on facts and proven information that will truly be beneficial for our young lives. Studies have shown that comprehensive sex education courses and organizations can help spread this barrier to delay on action of sexual activity, doing this also leads to sexual intercourse happening less.

Through the knowledge and right information brought from these programs and lessons it also increases the use of condoms and contraceptives. A strong “myth” that has been brought upon could be one such as “if we teach youth about sex, they’ll go out and try it”, studies have proven that youth who obtain comprehensive sex education in there growth are NOT more likely to become sexually active or have an increase in sexual activity.
This barrier around the topic of “Sex” needs to diminish because it’s truly part of life. There have been plenty of reports and facts placed out to the world that have shown why it’s okay to talk about it.

It’s been proven that our youth don’t experience negative sexual health outcomes just by learning information. Effective comprehensive sexual education does exist for youth from a variety of racial, cultural, religious, and social status values.

The American Psychological Association conducted a well based research that would prove how learning the basic facts and tested results of HIV, would cause a sort of “fear” in our community to have more people be aware of what’s truly out there . Not only have they found this research to be proven but if you look into what they do more you’ll find that this isn’t something they just started. “Based on over 15 years of research, the evidence shows that comprehensive sexuality education programs for youth that encourage abstinence, promote appropriate condom use, and teach sexual communication skills reduce HIV-risk behavior and also delay the onset of sexual intercourse.”, the simple teaching of Comprehensive Sex Ed can be what one day will be set a mind trigger to all for all of our population to see and know what’s out there and how to be safe about it, at the end of the day it’s better to give someone
The proof is here we just need the world to see it.

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 Imagine this. You open your eyes from your first nap after giving birth to a beautiful new baby. To the side of your bed, bundled up in a soft blanket, your newborn sleeps peacefully. While your lips slowly curve into a smile, tears fall on your paper-thin hospital gown. You’ve begun to wonder whether you should call your boss to say you need to go back to work or stay at home to welcome this new person into your family and heal from the delivery. No mother should ever have to decide between these two choices, but many do. According to the National Partnership for Women and Families only about 13% of women around the country have access to paid maternity leave. Although it is the law in the United States for women to be granted 12 weeks of unpaid maternity leave (for companies of 50 employees or more), the U.S. along with Lesotho, Papua New Guinea, and Swaziland are the only countries in the world that that do not mandate paid maternity leave. My question is this, how can the United States of America, the supposed “leader of the free world” and home of “liberty and justice for all”, lag behind countries where the average income is about 10$ a day in supporting new mothers heal from both vaginal and c-section births and being present at a time when critical development occurs for their babies? In addition to this question I believe we already have the answer. We must look at the inaccurate facts provided by the opposition within this domestic debate and debunk them with proof that comes to us from countries around the world in how paid maternity leave can have not only a positive social impact on a country but also economic benefits.

     Perhaps, all of this debate in the U.S. is part of the legacy of our “Wild West” days when every “man” was for his own and pioneering unconquered lands (whilst ignoring Native American rights and their existence) was the best triumph one could hope for in their lifetime. But this is not the time to keep these types of sentiments (that fueled slavery and genocide against indigenous populations) alive. It is important to look beyond our borders at other places where, despite major differences in access to funds, almost all countries, both poor and rich have managed to provide this important social safety net for the women giving birth to future generations. According to the International Labor Union Organization, Iran mandates that mothers receive 100 percent of their previous earnings up to 12 weeks after giving birth. To give an example of a country that is characterized by much different cultural practices and economy, Germany provides 14 weeks of fully paid time off (ILO).


And despite what many fiscally and socially conservative citizens might begin shouting at a townhall meeting, these are not just a bunch of socialist policies created by the types of people who wanna sit around in their bed all day and waiting for their check from the government to arrive at their doorstep. These laws have shown to have a monumentally positive impact on both society and the economy. There are studies like one done in November of 2011 by WorkFamilyCA showing many facts reflecting the benefit of paid maternity leave such as improved mental health and physical well being for the mother (enabling them to one day return to the workforce and be a productive participant) as well as better prenatal and postnatal care that has long-term effects resulting in the improvement of a child’s brain development. From these results we can also make connections to how this may benefit the economy; two simple words as a result, “Healthy Workforce”. You do not need to be a rocket scientist to realize that if the outcome of these policies is a healthier population than the employees sustaining the different industries that hold up our society will be productive participants in the society. It would be less likely that a mother falls ill due to excessive stress or a serious illness and has to stop working if she is provided with time to bond with her baby and heal from childbirth without the onerous burden of wondering how she is going to get money for food, rent, and heat. It also will provide us with a future generation that developed and progressed properly as infants, so that they too may build up our workforce and provide us with the tools necessary to have an economically sustainable nation.

      This is we, as both American citizens and immigrants whose parents came to this country for a better chance at life, need to put aside our pride and look to countries around the world that for so long have been “ranked” below us, and realize that we can learn from them and how much value they put in our mothers and the babies that make up our  future generations.


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Dear Former Classmate/Facebook Commenter,

Man oh man do I have some questions for you. When a friend of mine shared the article about George Lawlor saying “this is not what a rapist looks like”, why did you feel compelled to comment? Why did you feel the need to go out of your way to spread your hateful and judgement-filled opinion on my newsfeed when we haven’t spoken more than a “hello” when I see you in public for years?

What do you think gives you the right to tell me and other women that if we get drunk and have sex then “regret” it later that it isn’t rape? That it’s our fault? What right do you have to say that “calling men rapists” is anywhere near as damaging as having your physical and emotional dignity and identity torn apart by experiencing a sexual assault? Could it possibly be the same privilege that George Lawlor experiences every day? That of a white, heterosexual, middle-class male who has never experienced street harassment, getting groped against your will in a club, or being shamed for enjoying and embracing your sexuality? Do you not see that the throne of privilege you sit on is also a throne of ignorance, hatred, and misogyny? Believe me that in being white, heterosexual, and middle class myself I have often struggled to recognize my privilege. But while it is difficult to do, it is imperative in order to live life as an educated, respectful, loving member of society who advocates for people of all backgrounds.

When you said that “not all men are rapists”, did you for one minute think that I or any other women think that? Do you honestly think that we, as women, believe all of our male friends, significant others, spouses, fathers and brothers are rapists? If you do, I am completely baffled. Do you not realize that ANY men raping women is enough for women to be a little apprehensive? And the fact that 1 in 6 women will be victim of an attempted or completed rape in her lifetime gives women EVERY reason to be afraid? Yes, your point about men also being victims of rape is valid. Though that is the only valid point your comments made.

When you said that teaching the consent standard is victimizing men by calling them rapists “simply because of their genitals” did you for once think that this isn’t rooted in feminist issues? That feminism can’t help men too? Do you think that women being afraid and angry because our bodies aren’t guaranteed safety is for one second less important than your fragile male ego? You and George Lawlor are the exact reason we need consent education for men AND women and for people of all races, ethnicities, socioeconomic statuses, ages, and religions. Your ignorance infuriates me and at the same time makes me terribly sad.

And on the note of you saying, “shouldn’t there be education programs to teach people not to get raped” instead of teaching consent: shame on you. Women hear this message day in and day out. We are told that if our skirt is too short, we deserve to get raped. If we get too drunk, we deserve to get raped. If we flirt too much, we deserve to get raped. You are perpetuating an incredibly dangerous culture of victim blaming and slut shaming. Shame on you. I am thankful that I am not a survivor of sexual assault so I cannot speak directly to how these comments feel to survivors. But knowing how angry, hurt, and attacked they make me feel, I can imagine these emotions grow exponentially for those women who have experienced sexual assault.

Thankfully, the hatred and ignorance that you possess has only had the consequence of fueling my fire for advocacy, activism, and education. You have just provided me with another story to use when I teach, another example of why we all need feminism and why we all need to take a second to check our privilege. While you sought to make me feel bad, you did the opposite. I feel powerful. I feel informed. I feel that my purpose is reinvigorated. So while I want to scream “screw you”, instead I will issue a small “thank you”. While your ignorance is dangerous and damaging, the fire you threw gasoline on in me will reach much farther and wider than your ignorance ever will.


The Angry Feminist You Went To Preschool With

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It’s so interesting….until my senior year of highschool, I never noticed that I had never been given a class on sex education…I had taken classes on STDs and Date Rape….but nothing about sex. I mean, I knew what it was…I think? I saw a few movies with sex scenes… Twilight: Breaking Dawn & 50 Shades of Grey to name the most prominent ones in my memory. But I had no clear image of what sex was.

I’d watched porn (who hasn’t) and of course I’d masturbated (who hasn’t). I didn’t know anything about sexuality, or sexual lifestyles (50 shades of grey is NOT a good teacher, btw). It wasn’t until I decided to do my own research on the subject that I had learned anything about it! One day, I stumbled upon a nice lady on youtube named Laci Green. She loved sex. She was sexy, educated and confident. She knew what she was talking about, and wasn’t afraid to dig into any subject- she was everything I wanted to be.

I began reading and doing research…I wanted to know everything! I wanted to know about lifestyles, sexuality, sex positions….and then I wanted to share what I had learned with others.

I had the opportunity to learn all this information before I had become sexually active. When I became sexually active I was able to make the decision to be safe, sane and consensual. I found a partner who was patient, and respected my boundaries. Who asks for consent, every time. (I have to admit though, sometimes I get impatient and that holds us up for a good 10 seconds)

In my hometown, we don’t have this information. All we have are teachers telling us that there is a 99% chance we will get date raped (given that you’re a girl, of course) and after said date rape, we should expect to have chlamydia or a baby…or both.

In my hometown, people don’t understand the concept of consent. Sex is not a pleasure and the men “deserve it”. The young girls believe that without a boyfriend they are nothing. That it is mandatory to be married by the time you are 20 because how would you possibly survive without a husband? Who needs an education, right?

In my hometown, condoms are almost unheard of. Girls are coaxed into risking their lives and their futures because they simply want to have a boyfriend…even if that means that they don’t want to use a condom.

I have made a goal, to become a sex educator. In the state of North Carolina, sex education is shunned. It is very sex negative, fear based, and abstinence only. I want to give others the opportunity that I had to go out and find for myself. I want to help others learn to be safe, smart and accept others for their sexualities and lifestyles. It will take a long time, and a lot of education is involved…but I can do it. As my mother likes to say….I have what it takes. I have a lot of “muchness”. I am confident in my decision to work with young women and men for the rest of my life…at least for now. Who knows? Next week I might be wanting to be a sex educator for the elderly.

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Most people would ask, “Why teach comprehensive sexual health education in schools?” The response would typically follow is that parents should be teaching their children in their homes school is not the place to learn about sex.
In a perfect world we would love to think that everyone equally values the importance of sexual health education and healthy relationship practices but in some cases not all of us have been as fortunate to have parents in our lives to teach us the significance of healthy relationships and reproductive health.
For those children/adolescents in my community that do not live in the care of their biological parents, essentially are our government system is their parent, it has taken the responsibility of caring for and providing all basic education and lifestyle needs for these youth. They youth deserve the same opportunity for Comprehensive Sexual Health Education Just like the rest of our community’s youth. Providing extensive and age appropriate sexual health and healthy relationships classes in school will educate every single one of our youth. For some kids school is the equivalent to having parents.

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I honestly never knew how big of a difference sexual health education could be. I used to be carefree about those kinds of things since my school never taught it at all. There was a point in my life where I was thinking about having intercourse with my lover, we both had no idea about sex or how to use a condom. We couldn’t bring it up to our parents since they didn’t even want us to know about sex in the first place.

My lover and I decided to do it anyways, but it went completely wrong. Since it was our first time and didn’t know anything about sex, he put the condom on wrong and it ripped. I got pregnant but had a miscarriage. If only, if only our school or our parents would have taught us what we needed to know instead of hiding it from us, we wouldn’t have gone through what we went through.

This is MY reason for fighting for the RIGHT to sexual health education. Whether you’ve gone through a hardship because of a lack of education, or you just feel that this is vital information for your future, you should join us in the fight for sexual health education!

Join the campaign to advocate for the Real Education for Healthy Youth Act so that young people receive the information they deserve!

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Florida does not mandate that schools teach comprehensive sexual health information, and because of this, the Palm Beach county schools don’t see it as important to teach sexual health consistently… or at all! Their lack of a policy or even standards on teaching sexual health shows the lack of importance they put on our health. Do they want everyone to get pregnant, get diseases, and not know how to protect themselves?


Florida is not disease free, and the majority of my peers don’t know how to protect themselves. Florida is the #1 in the country with the highest rate of new HIV infections. With this statistic affecting our state, it clearly shows that we need more help and information when it comes to this topic. I truly believe that we should not refrain from getting more information when it comes to people’s health. If you believe that young people should have access to sexual health education, then support the Real Education for Healthy Youth Act so that together we can roll back these statistics!

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Sexual and Reproductive Health issues are the most sensitive issues of our society. They are not readily discussed or shared among people even with their family members.

These hidden issues are one of the most common challenge for sexual and reproductive health especially in countries like Nepal and India. Societies have always been so orthodox that they do not allow people especially young ones to discuss on their sexual and reproductive health problems.

These practice further leads to worsen the situation because people are not open about their problems and they hide them which makes the problem even more bigger. Even most of the educated people are not ready to discuss on SRHR issues. Due to which the sexual and reproductive health of the people are not improving in the country.

Only awareness and education does not help to solve the problem but changing the attitude of the people on the SRHR issues and making the people ready to implement the knowledge they got, can bring change for improvement of Sexual and Reproductive Health.

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Recently i was able to attend a program on “Comprehensive Sexuality education” with school students. It had been one of the amazing experience to see the change in perspective of students in SRHR. It has been around 5 years since i’ve passed my schools. Most of the students in those time were shy to talk about SRHR. Even teachers were shy to teach the topic of SRHR. When i was on my school days; SRHR had not been striking topic. Me and my friends were concerned only about subjects like Maths and Science. SRHR were not the topic to be discussed due to the environment set by the schools and society. But the change in perspective of SRHR in today’s students are praiseworthy. The students have gained the optimistic thoughts on the SRHR topics. The teachers has also overcome their shyness and using the new approaches to teach their students.

Students of today’s are groomed well by the society and schools to learn about the SRHR. Since i’m talking about the schools in urban; i’ve seen the change. But still there are rural areas which lacks enough education on the topics of SRHR. Students at the rural areas are still shy to talk on the SRHR topics. As it is said “change takes time”; i hope the world becomes SRHR friendly and everyone under the same roof.

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Sex and sexuality are a natural part of life and are issues that affect everyone, not just adults. Although many adults expect teens not to be sexually active, most high school students in Mississippi have had sex by the end of 12th grade. Mississippi has the 2nd highest teen pregnancy rate in the nation and the 2nd highest rates of chlamydia and gonorrhea infections in the nation. When Phil Bryant, the Governor of Mississippi, took office in 2012, he wanted to do something to reduce the number of teen pregnancies in Mississippi. He created the Teen Pregnancy Prevention Task Force in 2012 and has signed a Teen Pregnancy Prevention Month proclamation for May each year he’s been in office.



These proclamations gave a little recognition to one of the huge problems that’s been affecting teens in Mississippi. Governor Bryant’s proclamations, however, didn’t include the full range of information and facts on how teens could protect ourselves from unplanned pregnancies – the facts young adults really need to know. For instance, in his proclamations he wrote that “there is a need for activities promoting purity and abstinence until marriage…and educating teens on the …emotional scars associated with the onset of early sexual activity.” As members of the Mississippi Youth Council (MYCouncil), one of our goals was to get some of the language changed in the proclamation the Governor would be signing for May 2015. We wrote our own Teen Pregnancy Prevention Month Proclamation that reflected current research and the desires of young persons. We submitted it to the Governor and went to the Capitol in Jackson to lobby him and our state legislators to make a change.



On the days leading up to our lobby day, we started a Teen Pregnancy Prevention Month photo campaign. Our peers wrote what they thought us, as young adults, need to know about our sexual health and took pictures with their signs. At the Capitol, we talked to legislators from our counties to give them our input on the issue and let them know how important it was to us that this issue be addressed and the proclamation be changed to reflect the desires of young persons. We also shared with them our proposed Teen Pregnancy Prevention Month Proclamation and photos from our photo campaign. At the end of our lobby day, we sat on the steps of the Capitol and discussed our thoughts on the day. We were all so excited to find out what the results would be.



A day later, one of the Governor’s advisors contacted us about our proposed proclamation and said he would find out what he could do to help us out. A month later, we got the results. Governor Bryant signed a proclamation designating May 2015 as Teen Pregnancy Prevention Month. There are changes made to the language in the new proclamation signed this year, but it still contains language we think should be taken out. Gone was the language about activities promoting “purity” and teaching young persons the “emotional scars associated with the onset of early sexual activity.” Still in there was language about the “need for activities promoting abstinence until marriage.” He did not include the more comprehensive language we had in our proposed proclamation about the need to provide young persons with “accurate knowledge about abstinence, sexual health, pregnancy, sexually transmitted infections and contraceptives…”



We worked so hard contacting legislators, having meetings with them and the Governor’s advisor, and writing and editing our own version of the Teen Pregnancy Prevention Month Proclamation. Even though we didn’t get all of the changes we wanted in the proclamation, knowing that we could make a difference on the new proclamation made all of us feel good. This experience was really great practice that has better prepared us for our goal next year. Next year, we will be taking on a more difficult task – we are going to be working to change Mississippi’s sex ed law, which is biased towards abstinence-only programs. We are working to get all school districts to implement an abstinence-plus or comprehensive sex education policy. We will definitely have more lobby days and contact our state representatives again.


-Breyanna Hooper

Mississippi Youth Council

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This blog post is part of the Sex Ed Road Trip, a blog series uplifting youth activists work from across the country working towards comprehensive sex education. Today’s stop is in Ohio!

Last month Ohio Youth Leadership Council members lobbied their state legislators and ask for comprehensive sex education in all schools. Under the current law, Ohio requires that sex education be taught in schools but says nothing about it being comprehensive, medically accurate or age-appropriate. Ohio House Bill 132 would include a provision to the current sex education law to ensure that any sex education must be comprehensive, medically accurate and age-appropriate.

“My experience in Columbus was precious like every other moment I spend advocating for real world issues. As a young lesbian I was extremely honored to meet State Representative Nickie Antonio who is the first open lesbian representative. I’m reminded every day that the world is changing and becoming a more accepting environment when I meet people like her. Once again the experience in Columbus was amazing, and I continue to love the work I do with the Ohio Youth Leadership Council!” – Adalia, Ohio Youth Leadership Council member

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This blog post is part of the Sex Ed Road Trip, a blog series uplifting youth activists work from across the country working towards comprehensive sex education. Today’s stop is in Alabama!

Alabama Alliance for Healthy Youth (AA4HY) has been hard at work this year organizing their communities around sexual health education at the state level. Last month AA4HY held their 3rd annual Youth Advocacy Day, where over 40 young people from across the state met with legislators to advocate for HB252 – a bill that would remove homophobic language from Alabama’s sex education law.

Here is a quote from Quincy, AA4HY council member on how their advocacy has had an impact on his life.

“Advocacy has opened the door to a new fire passion for me. I’ve learned to be more comfortable with talking to people in my community. I’m more comfortable talking to other students about social injustices that exist today and more importantly I’m more comfortable with myself.” Quincy, council member of Alabama Alliance for Healthy Youth

Want to know more about advocacy work in Alabama? Click here for the full video blog.

Join Quincy and make your voice heard. Sign the petition today.

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We’ve been cooped up in the office all winter…so we decided to hit the road!

We all know that comprehensive sex ed programs help young people stay healthy and avoid unintended pregnancy, HIV, and STIs.

But we wanted to hear from young people across the country about why comprehensive sex education is important to them and their peers, and essential to lead healthy lives.

So we gassed up the car and hightailed it across the country!

We’ve been visiting youth activists in Nevada, California, Colorado, Louisiana, Ohio, Alabama, and more, listening to their stories about the importance of culturally competent, LGBTQ inclusive and medically accurate sex education to them.

Want to hear what they said? Read the Sex Ed Road Trip blogs here!

If you want to show your support for our youth activists, sign the petition to support the Real Education for Healthy Youth Act that dedicates federal funding to comprehensive sex education programs across the US!

Or, you can tweet at your Congressperson to support the bill here!

Happy travels!

Sophia Kerby

Advocates for Youth

Coordinator, State Policy and Partnerships


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This blog post is part of the Sex Ed Road Trip, a blog series uplifting youth activists work from across the country working towards comprehensive sex education. Today’s stop is in Mississippi!

In the fall of 2014, Mississippi Youth Council (MYCouncil) members did condom surveys across the state in their local communities. MYCouncil members surveyed local stores on signage, placement, and product variety of condoms. The results ranged from helpful and affirming to shame and judgment.

“I asked him if he knew where the condoms were, and he made a comment about how I did not appear old enough, and then proceeded to ask me my age. I refused to tell him my age, and he refused to assist me. As a twenty-one year old, I am accustomed to having to verify my age for almost everything, but I should not have to verify my age to buy condoms.” Courtney, MYCouncil member

“Why do adults stare when you go to the condom section? Why are the older workers friendly and smiling until you ask the question, “Can you tell me where the condoms are located?”… Doing the condom survey I always felt like adults were looking at me. They were not eyes of helpfulness but eyes of curiosity and judgment.” – Terrace, MYCouncil member

Join youth activists in Mississippi, and across the country, and tell your legislators that comprehensive sex education matters! Sign the petition today!

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Today the Sex Ed Road Trip makes an unexpected swing back to California, where a judge has ruled that abstinence-only programs do not constitute education.

Research has found for a long time that lecturing students about not having sex isn’t enough to protect their sexual health. But abstinence-only programs are even worse than that:


Plaintiffs alleged that the district was showing students abstinence-focused videos that contained “egregiously inaccurate and biased information,” like comparing a woman who has engaged in sex to a dirty shoe, and suggesting that men are physically unable to stop themselves once they become sexually aroused. One video, entitled Never Regret The Choice, suggested that homosexuality doesn’t exist by encouraging students to adopt the mantra, “One man, one woman, one life.”

That’s an education nobody needs. We applaud the judge’s ruling. Comprehensive sex education IS “an important right” and we’re glad the legal system has recognized it as such.

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This blog post is part of the Sex Ed Road Trip, a blog series uplifting youth activists work from across the country working towards comprehensive sex education. As part of today’s stop in Louisiana, we’re hearing from Foster, an activist for inclusive sex ed and trans rights in Louisiana.

My first exposure to sex education was as a very queer 9th grader at a central Alabama high school. The guest lecturer started strong with “condoms don’t work” and proceeded on to the STI-infected genital flashcards.

I remember that class vividly because almost all of the information our instructor shared was hurtful and wrong. Now a college student and public health major, I’ve worked extensively with HIV testing, lobbied for comprehensive sex education in my state, and even taught a few sex ed classes of my own. Comprehensive sex ed has become a huge part of my life and what I fight for.

But since that class in 9th grade, I’ve also come out as transgender, and that has complicated my relationship with this work. Fourteen year old me cringed when hearing about “the female body” and eighteen year old me isn’t feeling any safer. When I work in progressive spaces I’m constantly dodging the assumptions that queer sex and pregnancy are never related, that penises are what men have, and that abortion is an issue for women only. Everyone I’ve ever worked with in the fight for comp sex ed has believed that LGBTQIA+ inclusiveness is important. And yet…

When I lobby on Capitol Hill for comprehensive sex ed, I know that no curriculum exists that doesn’t tell me my body is “female,” that doesn’t keep transgender young people out of conversations about our sexual health.

As young people, we need to be educated about our bodies. How can we look for resources when every pamphlet, curriculum, and resource website is full of language that hurts us?

Talking about gender and trans people doesn’t change the fact that most sex ed resources are harmful and cisgenderist. Even those that include information about LGBTQ issues still use phrases like “a condom covers a man’s penis” or “a woman’s ovaries release an egg every month.” Sticking to this binary misgenders our bodies: my ovaries may release eggs, but I don’t identify as a woman. It endangers our health by not providing the information we need about preventing unintended pregnancy, HIV, and sexually transmitted infections. And it’s a painful reminder of the transphobia and exclusion we face in daily life.

My dream sex education course uses absolutely no gendered language. No phrases like “male body” or “this is common in females.” Only accurate information specific to the body parts or systems being described. My dream sex ed course understands that like gender, bodies are a spectrum. Intersex students and transgender students who are physically transitioning have bodies that are just as normal and deserving of proper information about taking care of ourselves.

My dream sex education also isn’t so heteronormative. In my nightmare 9th grade class, the girls were forced to write a contract of things we wouldn’t do to provoke boys into wanting to have sex with us (like wearing revealing clothing.) Not only is that sentiment horrible, it also made the assumption that all girls in the class were straight. My dream sex ed would use words like “partner” to talk about healthy relationships and sex. My dream sex ed would also make space for and celebrate the narratives of asexual, aromantic and polyamorous folk. Sex education should be about validation and gaining tools for your future, not about shaming young people for the relationships they do or do not want.

My dream sex education course also would talk more about sex. The class I had in high school implied that the only sex that existed involved a penis plus a mouth or a vagina. I had no idea of what sort of protection could be used when neither partner had a penis. Having frank conversations about dental dams and other forms of barriers will only give students a great ability to make safe decisions.

My dream sex ed is not just the sex education of the future. It’s the class young folk like myself are teaching over text message or at parties or on youtube. It’s also something that our elders have been working to assure that we all have access to for decades.

As queer and trans young people, we need access to education about our bodies and the choices at our disposal. Making sex education inclusive of our narratives and our needs is just one step towards creating safer schools and safer futures for our generation.

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This blog post is part of the Sex Ed Road Trip, a blog series uplifting youth activists work from across the country working towards comprehensive sex education. Today’s stop is in Louisiana!

In late April, Louisiana Youth for Truth (LYFT) council member Paris Scott testified at the Orleans Parish School Board (OPSB) meeting, where she urged the school board to support two important pieces of proposed legislation that would impact the health of New Orleans young people. HB359, sponsored by State Representative Wesley Bishop, would mandate comprehensive sexuality education for all New Orleans public schools. HB326, also sponsored by Rep. Bishop, as well as SB31, sponsored by State Senator JP Morrell, would allow for the collection of youth sexual risk behavior data through the YRBSS.

Paris spoke about the importance of medically accurate, inclusive and evidence-informed sexuality education, and reflected on her own sex education experience at Warren Easton High School, an OPSB school that would be impacted by the mandate.

“I am motivated to do the work I do by the increasing numbers of HIV/AIDS cases in my community. I have seen firsthand how incorrect information is given to young people in schools.” Paris, LYFT council member

Join Paris and make your voice heard. Sign the petition today.

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This blog post is part of the Sex Ed Road Trip, a blog series uplifting youth activists work from across the country working towards comprehensive sex education. Today’s stop is in Colorado!

“Sexual health is inextricably interrelated with our well-being, our health, and the ability to determine our own futures, so much that ignoring sex ed is doing an injustice to the youths of Colorado. As a young person, I believe that providing a comprehensive, medically-accurate, and inclusive education program should be both a basic human right and necessity.” – Taylor Hayes, C.R.E.A.T.E council member

“Sex ed is important in Colorado because it helps prevent teen dating violence.” – Katie Raitz, C.R.E.A.T.E council member

“Comprehensive sex ed is important for my state because it means that my ethnic and LGBT identities are acknowledged and included.” – Adrian Nava, C.R.E.A.T.E council member

 Join youth activists in Colorado, and across the country, and tell your legislators that comprehensive sex education matters! Sign the petition today!

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Getting quality sex ed in “the Big Easy” has been anything but.

New Orleans has some of the highest rates of unintended pregnancies and STDs among young people in the United States.

Louisiana schools aren’t required to teach sex education. If they do opt to teach it, the “major emphasis” must be abstinence. There is no requirement for these programs to provide information on condoms or contraception: information that could protect students’ health or even save their lives.

Support comprehensive sex-ed in New Orleans schools!

HB 359 would require Orleans Parish public schools to teach sex education that includes information about contraception and sexually transmitted diseases. HB 326 also grants Orleans Parish public schools permission to conduct a survey about students’ sexual risk behaviors, creating a better understanding of students’ sexual health and the gaps we need to fix.

If passed, these laws would be an important step towards providing New Orleans-area students with the information and skills they need to protect themselves, and make healthy decisions about their sexual health.

Both bills are headed to the floor debate tomorrow! We can’t continue to leave our young people vulnerable.

Act now: tell the members of the Louisiana Legislature to vote for HB 359 and 326!


Sophia Kerby

Advocates for Youth

Coordinator, State Policy and Partnerships


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This blog post is part of the Sex Ed Road Trip, a blog series uplifting youth activists work from across the country working towards comprehensive sex education. Today’s stop is in California!

Youth activists across the country are sharing their stories of bravery and resiliency through the Queer and Trans Youth Resiliency campaign – a “playlist” of culture pieces and tools — including videos, reports, images and other multi-media projects — designed for queer and trans youth, youth allies, teachers, parents, organizers and anyone who wants to support the resiliency of queer and trans youth.

Youth activists in Oakland share their stories around the need for comprehensives sex education, sexual orientation, gender identity and acceptance in “Sex Ed: the Sage.”

“Sometimes I feel like I’m bisexual and sometimes I don’t. It’s really weird. And I think not too long ago I confessed to my mom that I’m bisexual and I brought my uncle in. He was there to support me and said whatever you are, I’ll always be here.” Angelina, Oakland youth

Want to hear more the Queer and Trans Resiliency Campaign? Click here!

Join youth activists in Oakland, and across the country, and tell your legislators that comprehensive sex education matters! Sign the petition today!

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Over the past several months we have seen youth activists make their voices heard from the streets of their local communities to the steps of their state legislators offices. From May 11th to May 17th join Advocates for Youth in uplifting the voices and actions of youth activists from across the country who are making major waves towards comprehensive sex education in the states.   Read the series here!

During this week, we will be highlighting the work of our youth activists with vblogs, quotes, videos and blog posts on the importance of comprehensive sex education that is culturally competent, LGBTQ inclusive and medically accurate so that all young people have the information they need to lead healthy lives.

Come back each day to see youth activists take bold steps towards comprehensive sex education in their state and communities.

Join our youth activists and make YOUR voices heard by participating in our week of action and support the Real Education for Healthy Youth Act (REHYA). The REHYA will dedicate federal funding to comprehensive sex education programs that provide young people with the tools and resources they need to make the most informed, responsible and healthy decisions for themselves.

How can you get involved?

Show your support for youth activists by signing a petition in support of the Real Education for Healthy Youth Act. Join us now!

Your signature will make a big difference. Our youth activists are leading a national movement for comprehensive sex education by talking with their peers, knocking on doors and sharing their personal stories about sex education. They need our support!

Sign the Real Education for Healthy Youth Act!


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Through Advocates for Youth, I had the immense pleasure of attending UN’s Commission on Population and Development. A few of things the UN’s CPD is tasked with is to study and advise on population issues and trends, and to integrate population and development and strategies. As our population grows exponentially, we are tasked with trying to find a solution that will lead to sustainable development. One of the top suggestions that might make the UN’s goals attainable is proper education (especially for girls) with a focus in Sexual and Reproductive Health education. For a girl that advocates for Sexual and Reproductive Health and Rights, it’s a dream come true. These opportunities are rarely given and are in high demand– this opportunity is even less attainable for those categorized as youth and have little to no experience in this field. I am still trying to find my niche in the Sexual and Reproductive Health Rights world, but getting a glimpse into the UN and policy world is like being in a candy factory. I get to see how policies are introduced, fought for, and made from the very beginning. I get to see how the work that is done in these meetings allow us to exercise our human rights.

I was able to spend one glorious week stuffing years of knowledge in my head. Every turn produced millions of questions about how everything at the United Nations functions. There were many events that we attended that focused on the youth perspective and including the youth voice. It was a gift to be able to participate in these events and it was inspiring to hear the experiences and ideas from everyone. I felt most relevant when I heard my peers speak up and use their voices to start conversations about the rights they deserve. I met people who are my age or younger, doing so much more for the world that I could ever think was possible for people my age. Many times girls and youth feel irrelevant because the belief is that our elders and people with more experience should be making policies and decisions. When you think about it, these policies will mainly affect the youth. If that is the case why aren’t more of us in the room during these conversations. Why aren’t more youth invited to speak? When we do speak we shouldn’t be put on the backburner. One of the hardest part of CPD was being given the opportunity to speak in front of the plenary meeting and almost having that experience being stripped from us. We had wonderful girls ready to address the international community with issues that are relevant to us. Unfortunately, time and irrelevant side conversations were given precedence over the conversations that were rich in knowledge and experience.

Although we were delayed in addressing the international community with the issues we think are most important, I am very grateful and appreciative that I was able to attend CPD. It was an amazing opportunity where I gained a lot of useful knowledge about advocacy and rights. I felt lucky to have been a part of the conversation, but what I learned from my peers at CPD is that I am not lucky, this is a right, and I belong in the conversation.

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Its not daily that we come across people who may be looking at us from another orientation but when most of us do- we tend to ignore those people and give out the signal that society is not ready to accept them. Similarly, we also come across brutes who disregard the importance of women and consider them as material things and hence measure them in terms of money.

Just recently, a 31 Year Old Doctor from India committed suicide blaming her husband as he had lied about his sexual orientation and also accused him for asking for dower. It should be of no surprise to these people since in reality, this is what society in this region of the world teaches. Dower, polygny, betrayal and treatment of women as a third class citizen is as common as one can imagine.

Many from the society in which this man was nurtured would stand up to abuse and blame him for the events that happened but in reality, is the society not to blame?

A husband who lied to his wife about his sexual orientation since the common society did not accept him as a human is indeed the fault of society. Why was it that he was not able to reveal such an important reality about his life when his mother possibly forcibly married the two in a union without even having know each other? The first crime that this society committed was by making that man shy of revealing his reality. Secondly, due to the constraints that prevail in India and most of the region, the husband and wife were not able to know each other for any or at least a moderate period of time before the marriage hence the incapacity to reveal secrets and trust each other. Had the two known each other for some time, maybe he could have revealed to her that he was not a straight male. Similarly, this could have saved us from this absolute cruel to hear story.

Now, coming onto the second main point. In a society where a woman’s family is expected to give large sums of money, why is it that many expect another male member of the society to not do the same? Had these trends not been publicized and supported by the families of many- He would most possibly never had asked her for any money in the form of dower and saved her from a lot of mental duress and physical torture.

At the end, it all sums up to one and an only main point. A person’s personality is structured more by his surroundings and less by himself and in a society where dower and such things are widely acceptable even if “Illegal by law”- There is no way that another man even if a doctor would stop from doing so. Simultaneously- accepting what a man or women wants should be the society’s job but instead making one shy to reveal himself is not acceptable at all and hence today we are seeing such horrific results today.

Bring change in yourself, in the society and learn to accept what one’s sexual orientation is. Do not discourage and abuse a person if he is gay/lesbian/transgender but do abuse him if he asks for dower. Stand against the wrong, not a humans thinking! #Support Ones Sexual Orientation! #Demoralize those who support dower because women are equal and humans. Empower those who gave us birth!

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“It always starts but then it suddenly ends. They come for a week and then I just never see them for months” Said Ameena (Original Name not disclosed for security purposes)a housewife who barely gets to see her family.

She was married at the ripe age of 19 without even the slightest of her consent as her dream to continue forth a career in Journalism was shattered. From dreams of being an Anchor at a Political Scrutiny Show, she was brought down to the bitter reality of life of a woman in Pakistan. She was told that she does not need to pursue any career as her sole purpose of existence was to give birth and please her man. Hiding her tears to uphold her parents dignity- She threw away her dreams and got married to a bachelor known for criminal charges in the city. Her parents married her since their view of a woman’s life was just like that of a slave to her man. Forgetting everything, she still managed to get through with all tradition and marry the man her parents intended for her to marry. They thought he would protect her but the reality intervened and the mad man could not even protect her wife from himself. 2 Years later; Ameena found herself trapped in the same house without any medical help with 2 broken bones and miscarriage. She lost her child and the full function of her left arm after which she was kicked out of the house by her brutal husband who was supposed to “protect” her. She cried her way back home asking for random strangers to help but none decided to aid the poor lady. At last after 2 Miles of Walking with blood all over her body she arrived at her parents door. They didn’t welcome her, they threw her away as you would throw a tin into a bin. Their first sentence “He is you husband, he holds rights over you, Go back-Apologies and make him happy”. She begged and begged until her brother broke the silence and decided to take her to a hospital. She decided never again to go back to her house again and today; She works as a columnist for a renound Newspaper today. 2 years of abuse, a broken bone for helping her male cousin up the stairs and another broken for standing out the widow with open hair. Her parents tried hard but after seeking refuge at local NGO she survived and prospered.

Tales like that of Ameena are not unheard in the cities of Pakistan and even emotions are also hurt, hearts also cry for these poor beings but then no action takes place. No man mans up to save her daughter and no brother stands to protect her sister from brutality. Many issues are today covered raging between the rights of Homo-Sexuals to Protection from Harassment but unfortunately they are only covered. No action takes place, no help is provided and women are left to rot in societies such as that of Kalam Garh in Karachi.

1/3 rd of 2015 has passed and so shall the year itself soon but what would we have done, nothing but type words and give a few speeches at the UN. This takes me back to a quote of that hung outside the wall of my classroom, “Facta Non Verba”, “Deeds, Not Words”. We speak but let our actions speak louder that our words and let us bring a change.

With countries like Pakistan and Saudi where women are treated as nothing less that servants, let us help them in their struggle to achieve independence from chains that entangle them and oppress their dreams under a patriarchy of inequality. According to the National survey of Human Central Independence, conducted by the Government of Pakistan; 9 in every 10 women faces sever abuse at least once in her lifetime and 7 of them face such hardships based on the excuse of religion and male domination.

Polygny is acceptable polyandry is not. My son get a doctorate my daugher should be married by her 20 Birthday? Females are slaves and men are master? Let us please change this and bring a change to these statistics that are literally destroying our women apart.

It is understandable of your to follow your religion but manipulating it to oppress and hurt one is simply not acceptable. These people do not have the right to bring their religion as a reason to stop “Her” from pursuing their dreams, chasing their fantasies, fulfilling their wishes and rising with ambition.

We see lesser and lesser women in the open now, barely a few to spot by as more and more hurt by men nowadays. Many hide their emotions to protect their dignity or that of their family so let us help them as they cut their way across fields of pain and agony and get a equal shot at life. I am maybe a male but a human before that; if you are one who believes in “being a man” become a Human first otherwise there is no way to progress to the point of Manhood.

Bring change and remove religion as a basis of inhumanity. Bring Humanity as the religion and work to eradicate silly fake religious limitations and wonder just why would God want just only to favor men.

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A few weeks ago I went to a dance and met a guy. We talked a lot the next couple of days but then it kind of died down. I didn’t want to come off too strong or annoying so I didn’t bombard him with text despite wanting to. Some days later the conversation picked back up. He asked me to go to the movies and of course I happily said yes. I don’t live close to the theater he chose but I figured the trip was worth it because I thought we had something going. The “date” was nice and after the movie we walked around and talked and ended the night with a mutual kiss. 

We talked after but things just went from 100 to 0. I got a vibe that his interest were more sexual rather than getting to know me and since we live about 30 minutes away from each other he lost interest. I decided not to even try and text him anymore  because that is not how I role. I just feel sorry for the person who won’t live too but I hope they got some form of Sex Education.

From my point of view teens can fall head over heals while their partner just has sexual motives and they are none the wiser. Teens are having sex, it’s the truth! Without sex Ed teens can engage in sexual activities without proper knowledge on STD and pregnancy prevention and this is just 1 of the many reasons sex Ed is important. 

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I am a Resident Advisor to about 65 residents at my university. As a youth activist, I can’t help myself but to spread sexual and reproductive health information to my residents. Last week was National Condom Week, and in its honor, I provided both male and female condoms to my residents. My residents came to the program expecting free male condoms and various edible goodies. However, they were also bombarded with a new, unknown-to-them method:

“OH MY GOD! What are those?”

“I stick this WHERE?”

“Why would anyone use those?”

“Wouldn’t this scare a guy away?”

“Who uses those anyways? I’ve never heard of them.”


I’ll admit the first time I ever heard about female condoms I had the same reaction – until I was able to fully understand the power of female condoms. Female condoms are exactly what they sound like they are – but are inserted inside of the vagina (or the rectum). If you’re interested in a visual on how female condoms work, watch this informative video from Planned Parenthood.


As the reactions of my residents suggest, female condoms are not very popular in the United States.  In fact, out of about 50-60 students who stopped by the program, only one knew about female condoms prior to the event – and he was a guy. However, they have proven popular with both men and women all over the globe. In many countries, female condoms have become one of the preferred methods of choice. Their growing popularity in some places have left health departments unable to keep up with demand! There are several reasons why female condoms are a great method and why they have maintained their popularity among those who use them:


#1 – They are the only method that prevent pregnancy, STIs, and HIV/AIDS that a woman can control and initiate herself – and they’re just about as effective as male condoms. Though there is an array of contraceptive methods for women, only male and female condoms can protect against STIs and HIV/AIDS. With male condoms, a woman must depend on a man to agree to use a condom and use it appropriately. With female condoms, a woman can put her health into her own hand and ensure she’s protected from not only pregnancies but STIs and HIV/AIDS as well.


#2 – They are not made with latex, so allergic reactions are not a problem. Unlike the typical male condom, female condoms are made of nitrile, which is non allergenic. Therefore, a woman does not have to worry about herself or her partner having a bad reaction to female condoms.


#3 – They come pre-lubricated. Particularly among women in menopause, vaginal dryness may be an issue that makes sex uncomfortable. Female condoms are lubricated both on the outside and inside, which provide both partners with comfort and pleasure. If more lubricant is required, users of female condoms can opt for either oil- or water-based lubricants.


#4 – Many men do not enjoy wearing male condoms. Female condoms can allow men to forgo wearing condoms while also receiving pleasure from the design of female condoms, particularly from the rings on either end. In addition, male condoms require a man to be erect before putting it on, which can interrupt the heat of the moment. Female condoms can be put in before any sexual activity even begins – up to 8 hours before!


#5 – They empower women. Due to the very nature of inserting female condoms, women must become comfortable with their bodies and understand their anatomy. In addition, commercial sex workers do not have to worry about the possibility of a client refusing to use condoms; she can take her health into her own hand and discreetly use a female condom. Finally, HIV/AIDS is affecting more women than ever – 60% of all new diagnoses in sub-Saharan Africa are women.  Therefore women deserve access to a reliable, effective method that is made especially for them.


Though countries such as South Africa, Brazil, Kenya, and Zimbabwe have been effective in promoting the use of female condoms, other countries haven’t been as successful or do not promote them as heavily. To increase the awareness and use of this relatively new and exciting barrier method, we must:

  1. Advocate for the sale and/or placement of female condoms wherever male condoms are available.
  2. Work with manufacturers, private donors, and government ministries of health to make female condoms more affordable.
  3. Include men in the discussion so that they have the the information necessary to have candid conversations about female condoms with their sexual partners.
  4. Educate woman on female condoms in schools, places of worship, hair salons, etc.


To learn more about female condoms, visit femalecondom.org

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Hey guys! This is Hamna Tariq from Pakistan. ViolenceI\’ve recently noticed that the streets in my city are mostly crowded with males and hardly do I spot a woman nowadays. This has concerned me greatly as girls tend to stay home, hidden from society, to prevent them from being harassed. As a result, several women leave their jobs and their families become a target of poverty. In today’s society women are not even safe enough to walk to a nearby market alone. They are trapped within the four walls of their house so they remain ‘secure’.

Adolescent girls, who dream of success, are forced to do household chores or marry someone so other men are not able to harass them. This disrupts their education and they are not able to live their life the way they want. This caged oppressive life causes psychological problems for adolescent girls and not only do they have to carry the burden of maintaining a household but also endure the pain of childbirth and an age when they should be studying.

Two years ago, I had a girl in my class, Mishaal. We were good friends and had the same subjects. However, she was forced to leave school. Why? Because her ‘brother’ felt that by coming to school, she came in contact with males thus she should sit home and do what women are supposed to do; household chores and get married. She had to sacrifice her education and her dream of becoming a doctor because of a certain mindset inculcated in our society. But why does this mindset exist in the first place? This is because of the lack of laws and regulations ensuring women’s safety. It is believed that women are ‘supposed’ to be harassed when they leave their homes. Why else would they come out?

This trend of adolescent girls being barred from society is on the increase. There should be strong and adequately resourced child protection systems which do not only secure girls from all kinds of harassment but allows them to live their lives freely without fear. Thus, safety is a pertinent issue that needs to be addressed and hopefully by working together we can protect adolescent girls all around the world from violence and exploitation.

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A one school have many kind of subject for teaching like; English, math, science, Nepali etc. Teacher may learn many thing in time of teaching that topics and also student can learn many kind of knowledge, ideas about particular topics yes? But we not sure that is implement and practically use in our life or not? We have not ideas but we read and teaching compulsory these topic yes? E.P.H. and science books has include in our schools, in E.P.H. books have many contents of sexual and reproductive health right education but why teacher and student feel uncomfortable for teaching and learning. About its topics? Why teacher are not teach in friendly and comfortable environment about its topics and why student cannot read, learn openly in this topics? Human being is change, develop, growth, within time and natural process. His/her physically, psychology, social, mental and emotional factor is change day by day and it continuous process. That necessary to gain knowledge, ideas, about its topic. If people have totally ideas about SRHR topics they are not feel crisis of knowledge and implement. It is practically use in our life so this necessary for understand about its topic. One of the medium of learning its knowledge that is school and books. But why it’s difficult for understand, teaching and study? Why teacher feel difficult to teach and also student cannot get proper and friendly environment for learn, study? All subject are study and teaching easily from side of teacher and student, why not they can flow, learn and teach about this topic of sexual and reproductive health rights why not………………..?

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Today marks the 42nd anniversary of Roe V. Wade, a landmark moment for women across our country. People could, supposedly, seek legal and safe abortions, without fear. However, thanks to the Hyde Amendment, clinic protestors, and violent stigmas, this has not always held true for all people, especially people of color and people of low socio-economic status.
The Hyde Amendment has been in place since the mid 1970’s, being renewed every year. This amendment bans all federal money for abortion services, which translates to – federal health insurance for low income families and disabled folk such as Medicaid and Medicare, cannot cover any abortion services.
This is a barrier that affects our communities the most. My family, being one of mixed race and lower socio-economic status, has been consistently affected by this amendment throughout our generations. In order to better understand the struggles our women have been facing for the last 40 years, I decided to ask an expert of confronting, overcoming, and defeating struggle – my mother.

Mi Madre, still protesting decades later!

C- Tell me your story. What was it like when all of this was just happening and you were younger?

M- I was very lucky, when I was in high school, I could go to the city. You could get them, you didn’t have many protests, but I couldn’t imagine at that point having to walk through protests to, you know, try to make the right decision. Back then, we didn’t have the 24 hour thing; you went in, walked out. I do know several people who had the child and at that point, the family and everything was more invested in the child than they were, so in the first 6 months, two of them dumped the kids on their parents and split. The children had all sorts of problems because she didn’t want the kid and was partying her ass off trying to miscarry all because she didn’t have $400.

C- What about your story? How was it like for you?

M- I happened to be lucky where I came from. These things were available. The first time I had an abortion I was 17, my friend sent me to a back alley place in Harlem for only $150. It horrified me. So I went to my father and was able to get the money to do it right. I was really lucky.

C- So when it comes to women on Medicaid and Medicare not being able to access these services, women like yourself, how do you feel about it?

M- I think it’s unfair, I think people that need access to terminations are low-income and they’re the ones that have no access to it.

C- So how did the Hyde Amendment ultimately affect you and your community?

M- It made it difficult, I know people that had children cause they couldn’t afford the abortion. I mean, where’s the choice in that?


Forty years later, and our women and our people are still fighting for the right to choose. We cannot leave folk living in poverty, folk of color, and disabled folk out of these conversations. And the Hyde Amendment is doing just that.



If you want to keep the Hyde Amendment off of our more permanent law books, call/email your U.S. Senator and vocalize your thoughts on the No Taxpayer Funding for Abortion bill.
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In Nepal, talking about sex and sexuality is taboo. Imagine not being able to get basic information, or even ask questions. I started working with a local organization so young people, especially young women, could talk about their sexual health and get the lifesaving information they need. With support from Advocates for Youth, after a three year campaign, we got comprehensive, age-appropriate sex education into schools in Nepal.

Donate $10 now to help activists like me get trained to advocate for lifesaving sex education in our countries.

It didn’t happen overnight. It took years of meetings with policy makers, and the first online activist petition ever used in Nepal to get better sex ed in our schools. Now students can get information on topics like contraception, safe abortion, sexuality and sexual health services.

Advocates invested in me. They brought me to the U.S. for intensive 5-day training where I could learn and meet other youth activists and find family in the issues and challenges that connected all of our activism across the globe. Now when adults in Nepal know that I have been to the U.S., and have met with U.S. government officials, they have confidence in me and our work together becomes easier.

Advocates changed the course of my life and now, my country. Now, it’s your turn.

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With thanks for all that you do,



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When I started learning in secondary and higher secondary level , I do have much more curiosity with regarding sexual and reproductive health and rights, but my teachers cant share lucid information and education with regarding SRHR then certain imagination comes in my mind to continue my education in medical science then, then I started my career in medical microbiology. As time went on I started my work in SRHR with “Healthy Nepal Foundation” educating the school kids and to community people in Nepal. I give continuity to upgrade my knowledge and also share my ideas with regarding the SRHR with many people. Now, I am with YUWA-YALC team to work with the same issue in the Nepal and also in the global context. Now I am living happy and healthy life because firstly I have clarify myself, my family about SRHR issues and also I am trying to educate and aware many more people with regarding the subject about SRHR.

Poverty, Food Security and SRHR
SRHR issues are overshadowed by persistent poverty and women with unmet basic need specially their food security. The issue of food security affects the well being of women to the extent of having control over their bodies.
To address the linkage of food security  and poverty in line with SRHR, there should be proper linkage with policy makers to move in an integrated way with various ministries like agriculture, health and women’s ministries for a holistic change. Efforts on addressing women and poverty have largely been based on micro-finance projects to help women to earn a livelihood. The focus is not sufficient to adequately address women in poverty and to fundamentally understand the root causes that deprive women’s well being in the first place. Unless the root causes are addressed to ensure better access to health and food, women’s conditions cannot be improved.

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During my first year in college, I volunteered in Koseli School which is a school especially for slum children. I had to chose a subject or plan something that could help children to learn new things and be creative. Initially, I was in a dilemma because it was my first time as a teacher or a facilitator. So, I thought I could teach the children about environmental education and personal hygiene. In order to make the learning process friendly, I included different types of activities and games and the children were enjoying and I did receive good feedbacks. But I could see the need of sexual and reproductive health education for them. Though they were in 4th and 5th grades respectively, half of the children were big enough to learn stuffs about HRSR because they started school late and they had already experienced puberty but they were not aware about the visible changes they saw in them.

I continued meeting those children for about a semester, later my coordinator suggested me to work in Koseli for next semester too. But this time my coordinator wanted me to teach the children about reproductive health and my coordinator did provide me with all the relevant materials. It was a huge challenge for me to talk to them about reproductive health although I had all the relevant information and materials regarding reproductive health. The class had age differences, as in there were students who were of 14 or 15 years of age at the same time there were 9 and 10. To be perfectly frank I did not have that motivation factor in me to teach them about sex education. I knew its importance but I was hesitant because students give a different reaction when it comes to sex education.  And I doubted my capability as I thought was it a good idea to teach them and regarding the matter of age appropriateness I was in a great dilemma. So I switched my topic and involved them in different extracurricular activities such as public speaking, writing, presenting etc. Despite the children had learned and experienced a different thing but I was disappointed and dissatisfied with myself. After my volunteering in Kodeli School, I made a decision that no matter what it takes I want to talk and share about my experience and teach the children about sexual and reproductive health. I want children or young adolescent to take the changes during transitional stage of life where they experience change physically, psychologically and emotionally. Rather than taking this as a matter of shame or being hesitant, I want them to learn to love and respect and teach others to accept this change.

I feel privileged to be a part of Youth Activists Leadership Council which is working under YUWA. My interaction with the mentors and my fellow friends has changed my entire perspective on this matter. This is a sensitive topic yet it is fun to learn and share our experiences to remove stigma regarding sex education. I look forward to learn more and contribute through whatever I learn.

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I started Tea Time and Sex Chats to provide positive, comprehensive, peer-led sex education to my fellow students at the University of Chicago. One hundred people came to the very first session! Each one had questions about all sorts of things they never felt comfortable asking their parents or doctors. Being a member of Advocates’ Young Women of Color Leadership Council gave me the training and education to feel confident tackling these issues and answering questions honestly.

Help me raise $5,000 today so that shame is not a barrier to health for young people.

Now, whether I’m leading a workshop, working with youth activists, or connecting them to resources, I know Advocates for Youth has my back. I am driven every day to make sure that all young people have access to the resources and information they need to live the healthiest life possible.

Advocates for Youth puts young people side-by-side with policy makers, educators, health care professionals, and the media to produce meaningful change in the policies and programs affecting youth sexual health and rights and show young people as leaders of today.

Shame shouldn’t keep young people from getting the resources they need. Help me raise $5,000 today.

It’s not for everyone. And for Advocates for Youth to do its work to put young people front and center, it takes your support.

In solidarity,

Patty Fernandez

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When I was a student in Broward County, Florida, I didn’t take sex education until my senior year – and at that point, it was an abstinence class. I never learned how to protect myself from HIV, sexually transmitted infections or unwanted pregnancy.

I wanted something different for the 250,000 students in Broward County that would follow in my footsteps.

So I joined the Broward County Youth Council, a project of Advocates for Youth and Planned Parenthood South Florida. We drafted a new sex education plan for the school board to consider. Then we had to go to work to make it happen.

Help me raise $5,000 today to support a national network of youth activists in places like Alabama, Mississippi and Ohio who are leading the fight for better sex education.

How do we win these fights? Advocates works intensively with select partners in key states to create a 10-member youth council, brings them to a 5-day Youth Leadership Training Institute and builds a statewide youth network of 3,000 young people.

This strategy works.

After two years of gathering petition signatures and testifying at school board meetings, the Broward County School Board passed a bill to overhaul sex education.

Advocates for Youth gave me the tools to work for real change in Broward.

Help me raise $5,000 today to support youth activists who are leading and winning fights for better sex education in other communities from Colorado to South Carolina.

In solidarity,

Keanne Owens
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On December 1, each year the World AIDS day is observed to commemorate the 36 million lives claimed by HIV/AIDS across the world; it also highlights that in the fight against HIV there is urgent work that still needs to be done. It has been more than three decades since scientists identified the HIV virus which causes AIDS and the cure for it still evades the doctors. Leading researchers from Australia, Italy and the United States have said that considerable work still needs to be done before they can find a cure for HIV.[i]

The transmission of the HIV virus is tied to specific high-risk behaviors and has nothing to do with a person’s sexual orientation. It is not uncommon for people to blame gender non-conforming people for increased prevalence rates of HIV in society, but the real culprit is the legalized homophobia  and bigotry which drive them underground. The oppressed are always blamed for their problems by the oppressors. Societal norms, dominant cultural practices and religious beliefs are responsible for driving sexual minority groups underground due to which they are marginalized from HIV/AIDS related prevention efforts and have limited or no access to such programs. Because of this they are at a bigger risk of being infected with HIV/AIDS. No logical person would willingly want to contract HIV and gender non-conforming people are no different. Numerous research studies have proved that reduced stigma and discrimination always leads to a reduction in the infection rates.[ii]

In Pakistan, an estimated 130,000 people are living with HIV.[iii] But this number could be much higher as a lot of people in the country do not have access to screening services and are probably living in ignorance of their HIV status. According to the UNAIDS website for Pakistan adults aged 15 and above are at an increased risk of getting the virus, and in 2013 there were 4000 reported cases of deaths due to AIDS. A report published by the UN last year highlighted that new cases of HIV were on a rise in Pakistan.[iv] Most of the prevention efforts and Public AIDS control programs in the country are targeted at the sex workers in the country and have yet to include the general population who if not more than are at the same level of risk as the sex workers. The HIV/AIDS national surveys and public prevention programs do not include men who have sex with men and transgender people who are universally acknowledged as two high risk populations. And without including the key affected populations into their prevention efforts the national and provincial AIDS control programs cannot halt the spread of HIV in Pakistan.

Extraordinary advances in the field of medicine have made it possible for HIV-positive people to live long and lead healthy lives. But in the absence of a cure each year tens of thousands of new infections occur. Since 2011, the international efforts to highlight HIV/AIDS awareness have been focused on achieving the common goal of, “Getting to Zero: Zero new HIV infections. Zero deaths from AIDS-related illness. Zero discrimination.” [v] But less than adequate funding for HIV programs, ideological restrictions on research efforts, improper prevention techniques and endless stigma and discrimination have proved to be major roadblocks in the achievement of Getting to Zero. A majority of the world’s population exposed to the HIV virus continues to live in either ignorance or shame about their HIV status. Only through leading by example can we improve the lives of those living with HIV. We can get tested to learn our HIV status and show care and support towards those who have already been tested positive.  Together, we can slow the spread of HIV and better care for those affected by it.

[i] http://www.bbc.com/news/health-29460198

[ii] http://caps.ucsf.edu/archives/factsheets/stigma

[iii] http://www.unaids.org/en/regionscountries/countries/pakistan

[iv] http://www.dawn.com/news/1059723

[v] http://www.worldaidscampaign.org/world-aids-day/world-aids-day-2011/6

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I talked to a mother that expressed her concern about what her elementary to middle school aged children would be learning If they were taught sex Ed in school. I told her that the information would be age appropriate and explained to fit the mind of a younger child. She still was against the idea but she did admit that regardless her kids were being exposed to some not so “kid friendly” things whether from peers or media. I told her that is exactly why sex Ed for young children is just as important as sex Ed for teens because young children can intake a lot of information that isn’t accurate and sex Ed would give them age appropriate information that is accurate to combat with all the things they intake anyway on a day to day basis. whether or not her opinion changed I believe I gave her something to think about and hey that talk with her led to this blog post. 🙂

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We are all feminist!
People fight for every girls right,–whether in secret
or not. We have once said no to those people who,
one way or another have adjusted the beauty of the
“Girl Child.”
Life made things easy, but our new story-telling,
and blueprint-art, shaped the way things used to
be. It is quite beautiful to say we have tried our best
to influence most of the affairs of girls living in
rural areas–“to put a smile on gaunt faces.”
Today, there’s a task on each of us to help raise
awareness and #Write4Girls ; to ring the bell, and
set prosperous margins for them to follow.
In Cotonou, the Republic of Benin; teenage girls are
going through a lot of pains–from hunger strike in
major rural areas, to sexually transmitted
infections, and rape! Most of these girls have no
parents, only few of them have access to hospitals
and parental care. The selfsame happens in
Ekpoma, Edo state, Nigeria (…my state of origin);
girls have turned coated wires, nude. From peer
group relationship to hotel services. Almost 15% of
teenage girls in my environment from (14-17) are
pregnant, 10% are already mothers,–the story goes
From these circumstances “Feminism” becomes a
dwindled act, because majority of the girls we fight
for–(to get quality education, parental care and
reproductive health services…),–are knowingly
doing the wrong things.
But aside from any heart feelings, we are still
And There’s always a heart that wants to put a smile on
wrinkled faces. While “Malala,” is working on education for
every girl child, we too can do our best.
Today, there’s a new definition, the renaissance of a
new hope; thoughts that begets’ essence, and
notions that raises the bowels that once lay flat.
Our words, written or spoken, can influence and
reach the farthest places. Faults may emerge, and
we may have to shrink to environmental and
governmental laws; but the grace to move on will
spring forth, if we decide to take a stand.
This is for those girls that have lost all, those girls
that have been shut out, raped, coerced for
pleasure, used as slaves, Infected with Sexually Transmitted Infections, and made to hawk fruits
in the market.
We can do a lot more if we #Write4Girls, and
channel or thoughts to the development of every girl child.

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Recently, Emma Watson has come forward with powerful speeches presenting her personal beliefs about feminism and the role each person has in progressing this movement forward. Her UN speech, which can be seen here, http://bit.ly/1rB2PGG, discussed the HeForShe campaign and was a beautiful start, but recently she has also come out to Elle UK to discuss what feminism specifically means to her. Time has quoted Watson as saying, “Feminism is not here to dictate you… All we are here to do is give you a choice,” (http://ti.me/13eYpMS) which I think is a principle that everybody can support. The idea that feminism is personal is so, SO real. Feminism is different to every person and no type of feminism is wrong or better than another. Feminism is about equality and it can take form in a variety of ways. Here is what my feminism looks like.

My feminism looks like peace. The anti-choice movement pisses me off. So does slut-shaming. And victim-blaming. And general oppression. I identify as a feminist and I care about a lot of issues and I channel that passion into making a difference in the world. More importantly, however, I believe in the power of peace. Anger is a powerful emotion and I could never deny that, but more importantly I identify with peace and the power that tranquility can have on the world. During my freshman year of college my friend Shannon, at the time co-chair for our campus’s Student Women’s Association said to me, “peaceful, powerful, and pro-choice,” and since then I have really identified with it. This does not make me any less passionate. It does not make me any less of a feminist. It makes me, me.

My feminism looks like bandage skirts and crop tops. Sometimes, and not all the time, I like to wear heels and short skirts and heavy eyeliner. That’s okay. Everybody knows that the way a woman dresses or drinks or acts is not an invitation for rape. It’s also not an invitation for hate.

My feminism has no girl-hate. I try to accept women for wherever they are in their life. I accept girls who wear mini skirts and drink and have sex with different people every weekend. I accept girls who think girls like that are everything that’s wrong with feminism. All I want in my community, is for all of the women I know to accept all the women that they know. I encourage us all to focus on girl-love. Love the girls who stay in and study. Love the ones who go out every night. Love them for whatever they need to do to be the woman they want to be. Love each other. Because that’s what makes us all a beautiful and powerful group.

I think as a society we have a tendency to lose sight of what acceptance means. Not everybody has the same opportunities, the same knowledge, the same opinions. It is important for us to each share a little part of ourselves, share the things that matter to us in a way that is both respectful and enlightening for other people. We have to stop expecting that everybody knows what matters to us and start actively teaching each other to care. We have to start realizing that we all have the same goal and together we’ll be closer to the equality we are all striving to reach.

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After reading a beautiful article written by two Harvard College students, Brianna and Kirin, about their experience at Advocates for Youth’s Urban Retreat 2014 and their involvement with “the movement” for sexual health justice for young people (http://bit.ly/1nAOKZH), I decided to reflect on my own experiences and activism work. Here are five of the most important things I have learned by joining “the movement” that I think other people would learn, too. I’m sure the list will grow.

5. Friends will support you, but not always agree with you. I am incredibly passionate about some very controversial political and social issues, including abortion and comprehensive sex education and LGBTQ equality. For me, these are not even controversies, they are rights, but I have learned and been reminded that everybody is entitled to their own opinions. Just because one of my best friends disagrees with me on abortion rights, does not mean that one of us is more correct than the other. More importantly, it does not mean that we cannot be friends. Respect can go a long way.

4. Answers can create more questions. Recently, I was asked to speak at a Women’s, Gender, and Sexuality Studies 101 class about STD/HIV prevention on college campuses, contraception, and general reproductive justice as it effects my peer group. It is all too easy to assume that everybody has had the same education as you. They have not. There will be questions about consent, slut-shaming, and victim-blaming that will worry you and allow you to question society as a whole. You will have to explain dental dams and female condoms. You might be embarrassed at first, but you can do it. It is a worth-while experience.

3. Activism may lead to assumptions. One of the most important lessons that I have learned is that people want to know how your activism work specifically relates to your personal life. People are willing to cross those boundaries. Recently, I was asked by a stranger, someone much older than me, if the 1 in 3 statistic (stating that 1 in 3 women in their lifetime will have an abortion) was my “personal statistic.” I wasn’t offended, but I was surprised. I would never feel I have the right to ask another woman so blatantly and personally about her own experience. Some people do and they will ask.

2. “The movement” will change the people around you. You will be so delighted and thrilled to find that your friends and roommates and people you don’t even know are willing to support you and your cause. I recently started a student organization on my campus, the Student Alliance for Sexual Health, and found that the people who really care about me are willing to stand behind me for my cause. That leads me to the number one thing you will learn from “the movement.”

1. “The movement” will change you. If you let it, “the movement,” will open your heart and soul. It will fill you with this invincible passion that infects your day-to-day choices, that clears a path for where you need to be in life, for where you’re going, and where you have been. It will cast light on all of these shadows in your life and fill the spaces you need it to fill. Your passion for change is what causes you to become “the movement” yourself. You are not alone. You are a part of a whole. Cherish it.

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October is National “Let’s Talk About Sex” month, so being educated on how to protect yourself and your partner is nothing short of essential knowledge! From research done by the Guttmacher Institute, we know that condoms are the most common contraceptive method used during first intercourse, with 68% of females and 80% of males having used it the first time they have sex.

Some common misconceptions and myths around Condoms:

1. “Using two condoms is more effective than using one.”

It’s actually a lot less effective. If you’re using two condoms at once, you’re putting two latex materials next to each other, which will rub against one another during intercourse, leading to friction, which leads to the condom tearing. If the condom breaks, there will be an exchange of body fluids, which can lead to contracting an STIs and/or pregnancy.


2. “I’m allergic to latex, so I can’t use condoms, which means I have to use another form of birth control.”
First of all, no other form of birth control protects against STIs* at all, so you need to be using a barrier method when initially having sex with somebody, especially if neither of you have been recently tested for STIs. If you are allergic to latex condoms, don’t keep using them and suffering the painful consequences (including hives, itchiness, blisters and in some cases anaphylaxis, which can lead to death) and doctors’ visits, there are a lot of other latex-free-options!


• Polyurethane condoms: made from a special type of plastic.

• Polyisoprene condoms: made of a synthetic latex material that’s as strong as latex without “containing the proteins that trigger allergic reactions.”

• FC2: the female condom

(All available at Walgreens!)

3. “I’m allergic to Glycerin, so I can’t use condoms or lube!”
First of all, don’t stress. It’s very common. Doctors have found that Glycerin in condoms and lubricants leads to yeast infections in many people. For chemical free condom options, you may need to special order condoms, but that’s easy to find and order with the internet. Look to brands such as Sir Richard’s Condom Company, who make Glycerin, Parabens (which has been found to interfere with normal hormonal regulated processes and lead to a lot of negative side effects, such as dizziness, swelling, sweating and itchiness—not exactly sexy), and Benzocaine (which is a local anesthetic added to condoms to help numb up the member so that “guys can go the distance”) free.


If you and your partner have talked about using another form of non-barrier birth control, and would like to use a lubricant, then Astroglide, which can in fact be used with condoms, may be a great option! It’s Glycerin and Paraben free.


4. “Condoms don’t really protect against HIV, only abstinence does.”

While nothing beats abstinence protection wise, condoms are an effective method to preventing HIV contraction.
“The NIH report confirms that condoms are an effective public health tool in the fight against HIV infection. Another study of HIV-serodiscordant couples in Europe (one of the couple is HIV-infected and one is not), has shown no transmission to the uninfected partner among any of the 124 couples who used a condom at every act of sexual intercourse. Among those couples that were inconsistent users of condoms, 12 percent of the uninfected partners became infected with HIV.”


5. “Loads more teenage boys than girls are having sex!”
Despite common language and ideas promoted in social circles, media and online, the amount of girls having sex is about equal to the boys of their same age.


6. “American teens are more sexually active than other western nations, that’s why we have higher teen pregnancy rates.”
False! Teens in the US and Europe have very similar levels of sexual activity. However, European teens are more likely compared to American teens to use contraceptives, in general, and even more likely to use the most effective methods (such as two forms of birth control—like a condom and having an IUD) than their American counterparts; which leads to much lower pregnancy rates.



There’s a lot of misinformation around contraception and sex, make sure that you’re getting the facts and the correct information so that you can protect yourself and your partner.


Rights. Respect. Responsibility.

(Cough cough on the last one people!)





*Dental Damns, although not a birth control method, do protect against STIs but can only be used for female oral sex.

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I have a very clear memory from my freshman year of college of when I first heard another girl talk about her experience with consent. It was a Saturday morning and I was at breakfast at Hilltop Dining and it was becoming a perfectly cold and painfully sunny day in Maine. Consent makes a lot of sense in my head and before this conversation, I was under the impression that most people had a fairly strong grip on it, too. No means no, right? Or, as California has recently initiated, yes means yes (http://n.pr/1vqdnrt). End of story.

So, imagine my surprise when two girlfriends of mine sat next to me at breakfast, omelets  and water balanced in one hand and a coffee in the other, to tell me what they had heard in class this week. “If you are hooking up with somebody and you say no, but then you continue to hook up and it goes further than you want, that could be assault,” one said to me, with complete disbelief, like she had been in that situation before and had never realized her own rights. For me, I had never considered it in such explicit terms, but it made a lot of sense. I knew if I were ever in that situation, I would make sure that as soon as I said no, it was over. That was it. I would leave. I knew it in my heart, felt it in my bones, that I could walk away from that situation.

Fast forward a semester and I did find myself in that situation. But it didn’t seem so concretely clear. All of a sudden, I couldn’t find the strength to say no again. Why couldn’t I find the ability to fight what I didn’t want and push away? And I had a moment, later in the same night, when I realized what the girl at the breakfast table had just realized: there is something, at times, that restrains women. Something is keeping us from maintaining our strength, standing by our “no” after we have said it once, or twice, or more. There is a serious gap in knowledge and explanation in our sexual health education in our schools and in our communities. There is nothing that teaches young people, especially women, to speak up, to intervene, and how explicitly to do so. Without this accessible knowledge of what consent and healthy relationships are, young men and women instead find ourselves in increasingly negative situations. Even worse, this lack of knowledge leaves space for shame to grow and overshadow our ability to say no and to take charge of our own sexual experiences. On college and high school campuses across the nation, this fear of a reputation– either for saying yes or for saying no or for saying nothing at all– leads women into believing our voice is not as powerful as we want it to be. It is miseducation that causes this. It is knowledge that can fix it. So now, we as a society have this wonderful opportunity to teach young women to find the strength to say no again, to pull away, to stop what we don’t want, as well as to teach young men to listen and respect us. More importantly, to learn that it is not young women who are in the wrong. It is equally important for young men to hear and respect our no’s, so that they do not need to be repeated. Young women must find their strength and young men must learn to accept it.

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No person should have their pregnancy options limited because they cannot afford to have an abortion. We have not fully secured abortion rights until everyone has access to safe, affordable abortion care.

That’s why we are part of All* Above All, a coalition of organizations committed to restoring public funding for abortion care.

Sign the All* Above All Declaration in support of repealing the Hyde Amendment.

Thirty-eight years ago today, the Hyde Amendment was passed for the first time, barring the use of federal funds to pay for abortion care. Every year, politicians in Congress renew the amendment and deny abortion coverage for individuals who get their insurance or health care through the federal government. Enough is enough!

We ask our members of Congress to affirm their support for the removal of all restrictions on coverage of abortion care, so that every person can make personal decisions that are best for their circumstances, without political interference.

Sign the Declaration – ask Congress to restore funding for abortion coverage!

Funding restrictions like the Hyde Amendment force one in four women insured through the Medicaid program to carry unintended pregnancies to term. And the proportion is even higher among younger women, who are less likely to have a steady source of income and more likely to be uninsured. The Hyde Amendment’s ban on using federal funds for abortion means that federal employees and their dependents, military families, people with disabilities, Native Americans who use the Indian Health Service, and many families on Medicaid all lack coverage for abortion care.

Join Advocates for Youth in signing the All* Above All Declaration in support of repealing the Hyde Amendment and restoring public insurance coverage of safe abortion care.


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Today is the largest voter registration day of the year, National Voter Registration Day!

Let’s ensure that all our voices are represented in our democracy.

If you are voting for the first time this November, or have moved since the last time you voted, register today! It’s free and takes less than 10 minutes.

Young people have an incredible opportunity to make a huge impact on the political process. In 2012, 18-29 year-olds made up 21% of the voting eligible population in the US. That number will rise to 36% in 2016.

Our country is positioned to have laws that reflect your values and elected officials that share your lived experiences. So make sure your voice is heard by registering today.

If you are already registered to vote, you can take the next step towards ensuring your voice is heard this November by pledging to vote: Text “PLEDGE2VOTE” to 877-877

Or forward this email to a friend and make sure they are registered to vote



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Sex ans sexual acts are filled with various myths which has been giving some scary and untrue message to the world.this has been responsible for sex related fear and perceptions of the people around the globe. Though myths changes with the place we dwell but each and every part of the world has one or the other myths associated with following.
1. You can tell by looking if you or someone else has an STD / I would know if I had an STD.
2. If I needed to get tested for STDs, my doctor would test me.
3. If I get an STD, including HIV, there’s nothing I can do about it.
4. If he pulls out, I won’t get pregnant or an STD.
5. STD testing is for cheaters & players.
6. Sex in a hot tub / sex standing up / jumping up and down /douching after sex… will prevent STDs, including HIV, and/or pregnancy.
7. Two condoms are better than one.
8.There’s a cure for HIV/AIDS.
9. Oral sex and anal sex are “safe” sex–or not sex at all.
10. If I use birth control, I don’t need to worry about STDs.

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Government has already included the topic sex and about reproductive organs in grade six course book. Students have to study about sex form grade six and onward. To those who couldn’t study and know nothing about sex and reproductive organs they have awareness programs which not only government but many NGO/INGO are conducting mostly in remote and urban areas of country. Many people are already aware form many social media like TV, Radio, News paper, facebook pages, YouTube etc. then still why people cover their faces when we started to talk about sex
Sex is not a crime sex is not a thing that you will do openly in public places it is secrete. If someone is telling about sex than why to cover the face, gossip and make flaws???
One day I headed to one of the church with one of my neighbor sister. That day there were people for the awareness about sex and they talked about sex and many more about the reproductive organs. All the prayers were literate but no one ask the questions even they didn’t listen. When the speaker point to the girls they cover their faces and down their head. Single person didn’t head up. Same thing happens with male too when their times came they also gossip and didn’t listen the speakers. I was surprise with their behavior and asked the question myself why they are not comfortable with the word sex???

It shows that hear is still something lacking inspire of all those various Radio, TV, other multimedia, social media programs why people are still can’t face the same thing in front different gender. We together have to do something and many things to aware more and make them more comfortable with word sex.

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The Candies Foundation has a few stories from teenage mothers on their website. The stories are heartfelt, information, and I can only assume an honest account of what each mother felt when they wrote them. The inclusion of these young women’s stories is important and could be very useful to making non-shaming teenage pregnancy prevention ads. However, Candies has a history of promoting and making ads that shame teenage mothers for their sexual health choices and now has a history of ignoring teenage mothers who asked to meet with them to make non shaming ads via the #NoTeenShame campaign.

This year Candies held their annual month of campaigning and gave Vanessa Hudgens an award for playing a teenage mother in the film Gimme Shelter.
I saw the film she did a good job. However, I can’t help but to wonder why/how Candies can give a non-teenage mother and award for playing the role of a teenage mother but ignore a group of teenage mothers who are activist and trying to help Candies make more non-shaming and inclusionary ads.

The Candies Foundation has built an entire campaign and network using narratives of teenage pregnancy they feel is correct. They have done such a good job at this that their ad campaigns overshadow their clothing line and they are regarded as experts over teenage girls whom have experienced teenage pregnancy and parenting first hand.

I feel Candies has a great platform, they’ve been able to capture young people’s attention, and they seem to think including teenage voices is necessary in their campaign so long as these voices completely agree with them and do not dissent like #NoTeenShame did and continues to.

My hope is that Candies will stop paying Bristol Palin top dollar to speak, giving awards out to fake teenage mothers and actors from the Bachelor, and begin to speak to everyday teenage mothers whom would (have) like(d) to speak with them.

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How To Safeguard Male Sexual Health

Men don’t always realize it, but male health issues, like erectile dysfunction can be early signs of Type 2 diabetes or blocked arteries. Seeing a doctor regularly, helps a man’s health remain disease free. Even though men don’t like going to the doctor and it is generally their spouses or significant others who insist on their going, men of all ages, always need to pay attention to their bodies.

Checklist of Sexual Problems

A. Erectile Dysfunction (“ED”)

Erectile dysfunction or ED appears as the inability of a man to maintain an erection or to engage in normal sexual intercourse. Most men experience occasional bouts of this problem, while other men have chronic occurrences. There are various reasons why men experience ED, but the most common cause is anxiety and stress. It is also a fallacy that it is normal for a man to lose his sexual functionality. However, ED is known to occur in men over the age of 40 and research studies have shown that nearly 48% of all ED cases, have appeared in men between the ages of 18 to 39.

B. Premature Ejaculation (“PE”)

Premature ejaculation is reported to affect up to 25% of men in the U.S. Men associate PE with their manhood and start blaming themselves. However there are a number of reasons why PE occurs, such as excessive and improper masturbation, because their bodies are now use to orgasming quickly in response to artificial sexual stimulus. Another key factor is SNS, which is the sympathetic nervous system, where the body gets too excited and ejaculates too quickly under stress.

C. Low T

More than 13 million men the U.S., may experience low testosterone, hormone levels, with only 70% of them reporting symptoms to the doctors, such as maintaining erections and having a low sex drive. Low T can be diagnosed if a man is experiencing some of the following symptoms:

  • Decreased sex drive
  • ED
  • Lack of energy
  • Sleep apnea
  • Abdomen weight gain
  • Depression
  • Changes in the penile area and testicles

Male testosterone levels will naturally decline with age in medical conditions known as “andropause,” or “male menopause.” Low T can also be due to an injury, medications, or an illness.

D. Sexual Stamina

Sexual stamina refers to a man’s ability to perform better and last longer in bed. Sexual stamina is influenced by different factors, such as low testosterone. Older men experiences low sexual stamina due to the aging process.

Sexual Health Self Exams

The reproductive system of men is a vital component of the male human body, and keeping it healthy is vital for survival. The male reproductive health is exposed to certain health risks such as testicular cancer, prostate enlargement and cancer. This is why regular sexual health self exams are vitally important. Men should watch for changes in their body’s, such as:

  • Look for redness, sores, bumps, or blisters in their genital area
  • Closely examine their penis, scrotum, and anus
  • Check the testicles for swelling, tenderness, or a small hard pebble-like mass
  • Separate public hair to examine the skin underneath it.

Bedroom problems

Studies shows that 31% of all men soon experience some type of bedroom problem, pertaining to sexual dysfunctions. Premature ejaculation occurs when men have an orgasm during sex, sooner than their partner. Other bedroom problems can include low libido, where a man doesn’t feel like initiating sex and they begin to avoid their partner’s advances. Also, if a psychological or emotional condition, such as anxiety, depression, or stress has occurred in their lives, men can experience bedroom problems.

Pay Attention to Your Penis

Men should pay attention to their penis, in order to keep track of any unusual conditions that could occur. A self check should be done at least once a month, to note of any abnormalities, like discoloration or lumps and bumps. The best time to check the penis is after a warm shower, because the muscles are relaxed. Men will occasionally experience dryness or a slight irritation, which is normal. Keeping it clean is vitally important towards good hygiene, thus reducing the risk of irritation from accumulated skin cells and body fluids. Penile skin that is kept clean will remain smooth and supple and is less likely to develop tiny fissures that allow infections to occur.


Men should always safeguard their sexual health because becoming proactive will save lives. Men have a tendency to put off seeing their physicians, as well as to ignore symptoms. But an annual exam helps to identify problems that could put their health at risk. Identifying possible problem factors gives men the power to make healthy decisions and to empower them in safeguarding and taking control of their health.


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The Supreme Court’s buffer zone decision has the potential to have adverse affects on the sexual health of youth. American youth already have higher rates of unintended pregnancies-despite the latest decline in rates, growing rates of sexually transmitted diseases, and receive misinformation about sexual health all the time (read abstinence only sex education in public schools). 

By not upholding the buffer zones outside of abortion clinics the Supreme Court just unanimously put youth in America at greater sexual health risk. 

The first time I went to a clinic for sexual health information and services was after I had my daughter. I was 16 or so and went to the only place I had hear about, Planned Parenthood. Thankfully I did not encounter protestors however, some of my friends had; they commented that they were afraid to go inside the clinic because of the angry mob outside so they left. 

While they were not there for abortion services the anti choice crowd outside caused so much fear to them that they did not go inside and speak to a sexual health professional about safer sex, free condoms, and or HIV and STI testing. 

They left. 
They knew of no where else to go and unfortunately one of their first attempts to make well informed sexual health decision for themselves was ruined by ill informed, intimidating, and aggressive anti-choicers. While they think they are “stopping” abortions from happening, they are actually stopping youth from making sexual health decisions and establishing healthy and responsible sexual health practices early on in life. 

The Supreme Court let us all down but youth just might be the most vulnerable population to feel and deal with the adverse effects this decision can have on our health.

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Sex and the city

A sixteen year old girl got pregnant few weeks before i had completed my exams, and the reeking saint of unwanted pregnancy loomed in my street for weeks ; bearing from the first. Most girls I have talked to in my neighbourhood, often say ; ”their family are poor and they lack the essential resources that will trigger a change — socially, physically, emotionally and economically.

”Today, eight out of ten girls (with ages between 12-17) in my community, gets pregnant every two Months”

In Some families ( where girls are a majority), parents lure their daughters into prostitution : as a result of poverty, and poor social status.

We are the drivers our lives: but what if that life is nurtured and understood. What if girls are taught — with basic morals from mother and father.
”what if, for every mistake, she is corrected and shown the right part ; Then, with other positive attribute laid, change can be achieved.

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Every living thing has their own desires to fulfill. We human beings also have ample of desires to fulfill. Some of them will be filling up, but mostly were not. Likely human one of the biggest desire is sex to full fill within they die in their life.


We male and female both have sexual desire to fulfill. One of the research says that Male have sexual desire in every 7 seconds. They desire to have sex in every 7 seconds. It means male have high sexual desire. At the same time another research says that female have 10 times more sexual desire than male….

This is a surprising but this is what research is bean saying.


In this case why always female are raped by male here is a point to be debate on. Yes may be female have power to not express. Like male when male thinks or desire it they have habit to get it immediately and at the same time when the female comes front with shorter dress or with sexy style than of course male can may not be stop to fill his desires and they force or rape.


At same time female can stop or they stop reacting or they can remain silent. Like boys express with their friends and says they wanted to do. They share with friends about the things and relax. But girls can’t do so, so they remain silent and they go for crazy dress up crazy styles.

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Many of us spent this beautiful weekend indoors, binge-watching Orange is the New Black.  For those who did not, you missed both a great TV show, and a valuable lesson in anatomy, in episode four: A Whole Other Hole. The conversation began among inmates Poussey, Taystee, Janae, and Cindy.  The topic:  How many holes do we have down there? Poussey insists we have two, the vagina and the one for pee, while others are sure we only have one. Sexed

The group moves to the showers for personal verification, as Sophia attempts to dispel the misinformation. Sophia   She hands Taystee a compact mirror and invites her to take a look at her own.  Later she shares her expertise with the rest of the ladies: dhvm4e9ymoco2dvz3n9u   Sophia is an A+ peer educator in this episode.  And isn’t it sad that so many folks, in fictional television shows and in life, either didn’t have sex ed, or didn’t learn about their bodies in sex ed???   By the way, if you can’t see Sophia’s chart very well, here’s a diagram of the reproductive organs.  Break out your own compact mirror!

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Coupled with the buzz of religious norms the relationship with sexual health and development in most parts of the world – where girls are a major entity. There are huge barriers raising the heights against change, due to religious tenets and other viral misconception on girls sexual health by uneducated and uninformed dictators.
Most Christian girls socialize and connect with youths of the opposite sex. Frankly the main course for this, is to associate with the outside world and spread the world for change.
In Nigeria, there’s an upheaval of distrust when it comes to Christian girls associating with boys of different social and religious background. The enmity connected with youths due to a difference in background makes it difficult for social equality to take effect.

Most girls have become rigid due to the religious norms governing the idea of equality.
Our social conditioning as males and females is an important determinant of sexual risk behaviours. The pressure from religious beliefs like ,” no sexual intercourse till marriage, no dating and socialize with only the same peer group, pressure most girls into engaging in sexual behaviours they don’t want, and as a consequence increase their risk for unintended pregnancy and sexually transmitted disease.

The nub of the matter is that these girls due to pressure from religious norms have rapidly increased the rate of teenage pregnancy and STIs – which is a major threat to a promising society.

I believe that, if we can raise our voice the notion governing religious superiority in our environment , then we may experience social equality.

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“We are here for family planning. She has already taken great hurdles during her pregnancy; not any more now. I will operate for family planning procedures. And this is the only way I can help her physically.”, a man expresses his compassion towards his wife during an encounter of a couple in family planning and counseling center at Teaching hospital.
Asking him in and out of a female reproductive health and knowing his view made me sigh deeply and happily. Now I asked myself, has there been a real change in this concept of materialization of a woman? Is pregnancy no more an institution to promote instrumentalism? Is every woman getting equal response from their better halves? And I answered myself; there must have been at least some initiation. Now it’s not just mother-in-law/mother, sister-in-law or sister who brings women to gynaeo depart and delivery wards. We get to see her partner sometime even father, brother and male in-laws caringly giving her a hand of support. Observing these trivial achievements, an internal force propels to throw a beautiful smile.
Reproductive health of women is the most sensitive and the most complicate unit of health. It’s the identity of a woman and the thing that gives them inextricable happiness. Let it bet the time of her teenage when menstrual cycle starts operating, breast oust from her chest, or the time in her adulthood when she experiences her first sex and becomes pregnant, welcomes children home or her infertility in her old age where her menstrual cycle stops, reproductive health is always a part of her life. It’s the health that adds color to her life, gives her and her family an awaited pleasure.
Reproductive health by its name though involves all those organs and issues related to reproduction, it is a very vague which gives different view from many angles. Reproductive health is that topic which links gender. But reproductive health of women is always on hike than that of men due to their higher contribution to reproduction and higher complications in women. Reproductive health of women gives the panoramic view of diseases, diagnostic features, its symptoms and complications along with every condition of a female partner of a couple. In fact it includes ins and outs of a female reproductive system.
Stomach cramps during menstruation, prenatal and postnatal extremities, uterine prolapse, cervical cancer, discrepancies in vaginal and fallopian tubes, complications due to short terms and long terms contraceptives procedure, problems in sexual intercourse are the major complication that female have been afflicted from the god blessed reproductive health of her. Actually she suffers a lot to receive some happiness from her reproductive health. Pre and post pregnancy disorders are far more difficult and challenging than the 9 months of pregnancy. Insanitation during menstruation in rural areas of Nepal have been worsening the condition, along with fostering of superstition in menstrual cycle. Heavy works during the pregnancy tenure, lack of adequate nutritious food during pregnancy and inadequate knowledge of birth spacing have been causing uterine prolapse.
Female cannot be accompanied by other person during her pregnancy and other reproductive health infirmities as lovingly as her own partner. Inability of a female to speak about their reproductive health deformities and also about the use of contraceptives is due to traditional system of male domination prevalent in our society. A male can attribute for personal happiness of female in every aspect. Every sexual intercourse is taken as an instinct of life for eternal happiness. He and his involvement in her aspects of health can always be taken as a symbol of positivity. Every male shares great responsibilities of his partner’s health on his shoulder. Condition of marital rape would not have arisen had the entire male understood their limits. Attention of a male towards problems of female builds healthy society and pacifies gender domination. Reproductive health of a woman will immensely improve if male partner addresses her difficulties by decreasing the reproductive burden of female partner.
Globally priorities are changing and also the power is being shared. Peoples are moving ahead. Many aspects of women health has been escalated to new level of understanding and effort. Now, women are generally not found alone in a gynecologist or with family planning counselor. Male are being their literal partner. Yet many changes are to be made in context of Nepal. Voices of every female are to be raised, obligations are to be pinned to every male’s chest, and power of women and condition of her health are to be understood by every family to trigger building a healthy and happy community.

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They aren’t too many gays in Nigeria, as well as lesbians. But for over a wide spectrum we have been able to parry the disparities we have.
Life and the circumstances it dictates has curbed the desire of man to either appreciate or pulverize its contributions.

Many a time, i have tried to understand why there’s no equality between youths of different sexual orientation and the society.
”some say, these youths have violated the laws of nature and existence”, but from what i have figured, it’s bluntly choice.

With choice, we have become anew ; thus redefined with the principles of life. ‘Choice influence decision, and in deciding we set the goals and objectives of our future.

Today, we have a future that emerged from the choices we made years ago – which instigated ; war, peace, hate, discrimination, youths with different sexual orientation, poor governance and many others.

For over a decade, we have been able to comprehend the reasons why these properties have become a dominant fact in our lives.
Today, we have boys who have turned gay ( due to certain obligations resulting from choice ), and girls, lesbians as well as youths who equate themselves to both stance.

From my research, here are some crucial areas that constitute a high proportion of disparities between GLBT & The Society :

Christianity, Traditional rights, as well as Islamic principles don’t encourage the relationship between man to man and vice versa. In Nigeria, there’s a very high standard in religious notions, which govern the affairs of positive living – that is living up to standard.

Youths who are (Gay, Lesbians, Bisexual or Transgress) are shunned, to avoid profane contamination between young and inspiring youths. This equates to no acceptance, with an increase in Gender Differences.

The family holds the foundation of every youth, and also admits to a purposeful and proactive attribute set by them. Most families have certain principles they adhere to so as to attain a positive lifestyle. Thus, they don’t support the abnormal behaviors (in terms of sexual orientation) their child may portray.
The attitude set by most parents reduces the standard of youths in a given environment. Since they aren’t accepted in their homes, they go out with a wrong mind set.

Recently in Nigeria, the bill for a 14 year in prison for youths who are (GLB) was passed, which shut the door to acceptance and cordial agreement between (GLB, non GLB youths and the Society). Certain Laws attributed to youths with different sexual orientation raises an unequal relation between youths of the same or different peer group and other external work ground. Thus, there’s no security and peace.

Most environment despise GLB youths and as such raise hands for condemnation when a GLB youth is caught in the act. These laws or principles which originate from governmental notions and environmental standards looms the street of most countries, not only as a warning but as an opportunity to end a life. This conditions creates an unsafe avenue for GLB youths, reduces self-confidence and esteem.

Nowadays, schools – Private or Government owned, don’t encourage a mixture of youths with a different sexual orientation in their surrounding, to avoid contaminating those that aren’t practicing such acts.
In real sense, the environment plays a huge role in the development of schools. Thus, since there’s a disagreement between GLB youths and the environment, the school closes the door for an opportunity to meet other youths and learn As well.

GLB youths have rights too. The way we act should also influence and elevate the bedridden standards which has nullified the way things are with these youths.

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The issue of sexual health and its related concept have been a heart-ache in the domain of growth and fundamental right. In Nigeria, there’s a redundant development in men’s sexual health as well as women. We (men&women), at most case experience the same circumstances ; while some Girls are raped – which results from the deformity in social and health status, lack of respect and right. Boys experience some Abnormal Behaviours – As a result of poor Environmental standard, wrong peer group, lack of sex-Ed and above all poor home training.

The Notion for the fundamental dedication of change is an abstract concept put to practice by uneducated and inexperienced dictators. What we need is a change, a turn-around from the illusion that all will be safe and sound.
Girls have become an object of mockery And abuse. There’s a gross increase in stigma, which emanates from unwanted and unhealthy sexual intercourse and Hiv, as well as other Demographic circumstances. The worst of all this, is the lack of respect shown to girls (Especially in the Northern parts of Nigeria).

I have recently noticed a meager increase in Medical utensils made available by the so-called government. Even at the expense of this unqualified rise in standard, there’s still a turmoil between men and women on who is to use these medical service and when to use it.
“Inequality”, has curbed the value for a characteristic change in Health services rendered to Nigerians. Today, medical doctors in government owned hospitals go on strike mostly for an increment in salary – with little or no maintenance and materials for health services.
Sexual health is a FACTOR of life. And as long as there will be Reproduction, Sexual Health is Needed and should be (RESPECTED,PROTECTED and FUFILLED) in the affair of every man and woman.

Another subject that greatly disturbs is the decry of provisional aid in the facilitation and tackling of the defaults associated with health services rendered and a very low attention given to (Affected (Hiv) and Unaffected persons).

On the context of medical attention , segregation is the source of ‘Inequality’. The Rich gets all the attention he/she needs and the poor man or woman has his/her rights neglected – As a result of the segregation in roles and opportunities affiliated to Health.

An Even Social status attributed to Sexual health is one cure to the ill practices portrayed by the lack of Decency and Inequality.

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After three years of community mobilization and advocacy efforts, the School Board of Broward County unanimously passed one of the most comprehensive sexual health education policies in the nation!

And young people were at the center of those efforts. Join them in saying “Thank You” to the School Board of Broward County for supporting comprehensive sexual health education!

Congratulations to the Broward County Youth Council for all their hard work in making sure that young people have access to the resources and education they need to make healthy decisions about their lives!

Starting next school year, all sexual health education in Broward Schools will be medically accurate, age-appropriate, and be taught to students on an annual basis. Finally, young people in Broward will receive the sexual health education they deserve.

Take a minute to say “Thank You” to the School Board of Broward County!

Tweet now!The Broward School Board just unanimously passed comp sex ed! Thank them with me:ow.ly/wyrCy


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For months, I have thought, read and surfed the
web and other extensive files and documents of
ways by which ; Males and Females , can have
safer sexual intercourse without STDs and not
having to worry about Unwanted pregnancy.
Although , Abstinence is a profound alternative
which is practiced by volunteering to Refrain from
sex , till a divine time. Abstinence is laid on a
foreground of not having any kind of sexual
relationship with a partner – it is simply
diminishing this urge with self will (i.e not willing
to oblige).
But , I have often dabbled at rigorous questions I
can’t answer ( like : Can we all abstain from sex ?)
If only a handful can, then what about the
majority ? I got the idea of Outercourse, from
Medical Reports I came across and other
documents too.
“Outercourse allows people to express their
sexuality in many ways, to Abstain from sex, and
avoid the risks of sexually transmitted infection
and unplanned pregnancy”.
“Outercourse is any sex play with no penetration
at all, whether — oral, anal, or vaginal”.
It also, defines the situation of intercourse –
between youths and adults experimentally.
Most youths, especially young couples who desire
no intercourse between themselves for a long time
can delve into outercourse :
Because there are no side effects and medical
faults , since the fondling of the body is meant to
cause stimulation and provide satisfaction.
Outercourse is a the best option for the young and
old, since sexual intercourse cannot be ultimately
ruled out.
Outercourse, is not an education, but rather
abdication of the role of guiding youths with the
information they need to make personally
influenced decisions based on sound reasoning
facts. “Knowing, what is safe and what you should
avoid will help you make proud and responsible
Outercourse gives an outstanding solution to the
aches we have in the society due to certain notions
most youths and couples partake in.
There are ways in which youths, couples and
adults can life an outstanding life without being
cut short by unwanted and unplanned
circumstance. For sexual health – which is every
youth desire , Outercourse should be considered to
reduce sexually transmitted diseases and
Unwanted pregnancy.

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Last year Candies started the #NoTeenPreg hashtag in an effort to continue the work they do which they believe helps reduce unintended teenage pregnancies. 

A group of former teen moms, now young moms, really felt that Candies mission is an important one but their messaging and ads were stigmatizing, rude, disrespectful, and not informative enough so #NoTeenShame was born. 
We asked the founder of the Candies Foundation, Neil Cole, to meet with us as a group to discuss how we could work together to make better, non stigmatizing, and informative ad campaigns for their annual month of action in May. (May is is also Teenage Pregnancy Prevention Month) Despite numerous calls and 800+ petition signatures asking Mr. Cole to meet with the #NoTeenShame team Candies and Mr. Cole did not respond. 

Mr. Cole did however, spend time writing a post on his Huffington Post Blog about why Candies is right and why essentially anyone who disagrees is wrong. We were upset but certainly not defeated. 

This year #NoTeenShame has been meeting for about 5 months through weekly conference calls about what and how we will directly create a cultural shift in the way teenage and young families are discussed and how preventing teenage pregnancy does not have to include mentioning us, our peers, or our families especially if it is in a negative way.

We have a Tumblr, a very active hashtag; #noteenshame, and a very insightful one pager about our goals, history, and mission. 

However, what #NoTeenShame has really showed me, as simply one of it’s core members, is that online advocacy that is born out of speaking up when something is wrong is powerful, purposeful, and can change the way people think about certain topics. 

In April we launched- and successfully met our goal on- a Thunderclap campaign which asked supporters to sign on and tell the world that they support #NoTeenShame and our mission, we had an insightful and purposeful twitter chat hosted by Tara of The Young Mommy Life, we’ve had organizations reach out and show support and pledge their solidarity alongside with us. 

As we get ready to enter one of the most stigmatizing months for teen and young parents we have the honor of knowing that we are on the right side of change and progress, that more people are beginning to think about how harmful ads they once thought were seemingly harmless really effect others, and that Neil Cole and many other organizations and foundations like his who use stigmatizing language are watching. 

#NoTeenShame is about young people using technology to advance and change discussions on causes we hold most important and personal to us in an effort to implement change in policy and change in cultural perceptions.

Thank you for your support thus far and please continue to support us and ALL young families during May and everyday.

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Bill O’Reilly believes that Beyonce does not deserve to be on the cover of Time magazine because she causes young women in the black community to have unintended pregnancies…. Seriously, he said that.

As a young black Latina who had her daughter at 15, I don’t even know where to start with his ridiculous claim. I can however promise you that Beyonce and her music were the LAST things that led to my being pregnant at 15 years old. Terrible sexual health education classes in my conservative southern school; poverty; lack of access to  affordable  birth control options; and low self esteem are a few of the things that led to my unintended teenage pregnancy –  but certainly not Beyonce.

While O’Reilly is making ridiculous claims about the black americans and unintended pregnancies being attributable to a very married, committed, and self employed black women, Beyonce, I wonder when he will address the lack ofcomprehensive sex education being taught in public and private schools across America? When will he address the fact that low wages keep many parents out of the home for hours on in, working for wages so low that they can barely afford to pay the rent  – let alone spend real and quality time with their children? I wonder when/ if he will take a look at policies in place that keep access to affordable birth control options to all persons, free of coercion, an option?

It simply doesn’t work or add up to be anti- birth control, anti livable wages, anti Beyonce and paint yourself as the voice of reason for a group of people you know very little about.

This decline seems to coincidentally line up with that fact that Beyonce’s first single album was released in 2003, and since then teenage pregnancy rates have continued to drop.

 If we want to play the game of false equivalencies and correlation being causation, I will take a note out of the Brookings Institute “findings” and say that it is not the show Teen Mom but is in fact Beyonce and her jezebel music you speak of that have led to the decrease in teenage pregnancy.

There you have it folks, Beyonce is the cause of the decline in unintended pregnancies. (see how ridiculous that sounds?)

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Thoughts at puberty”

Thoughts may come and go,
And minds made decisive,
Mates may stay to cuddle,
And tears cease to stop,

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Prom season is in full swing! Students across the country are reserving limos, renting tuxes, and posing for those classically awkward photos for their parents. But while we’re enjoying the glamour, let’s not forget safety! It’s always better to protect ourselves – and our partners – and these images are a reminder to do it in style. #promswag!

Share on FacebookIt’s always better to protect ourselves – and our partners – and these images are a reminder to do it in style. #PromSwag. http://bit.ly/PromSwag

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abstinence #promswag
condoms #promswag
condoms #promswag
patch #promswag
pill #promswag

Show your love for contraception methods, while getting your prom glam on.

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Keep calm, and Prom on.

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I have seen people change and at the same vein witnessed a retrograde in youths. I have been around areas where there\’s no hope for light and peace, but in this same situation some people still survive.

I have been around youths – Boys and Girls, that have made life difficult for themselves due to lack of knowledge. And my countenance has dwindled, because I have witnessed a holocaust of ruined lives in the past, even now.

I love peace and the prospect it brings. I love sanctuary – a foundation laid on the rocks of simplicity and the Arm of Justice.
I stand against the illegal acts displayed by the so-called Governmental body. I stand against rape, child abuse and its associated acts. I stand against the malfunctioning of child rights and value – I stand for a change, as an \”Advocate\”.

I stand as a Youth, Not a man, alone. But with men – the colony of change.
\”A man cannot be a faculty, men can. The necessity of change begins with not one man, but with the uniformity of all\”.
(Victor Omovbude Brown)

I stand against – Child punishment, Tribalism, criticism, Discrimination, and Queer visions. I stand for change, which is my first goal. As a youth, I stand for Unity, Peace and Progress.

I stand for a free and transparent Health service attributed to (children,youths and adults) – I stand against unequal rights and segregation in roles.
I stand for Quality Education – Void of preferential treatment, equal for all.
I stand against poor governance.

I am an \”Advocate For Youth\”.

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I have seen people change and at the same vein witnessed a retrograde in youths. I have been around areas where there’s no hope for light and peace, but in this same situation some people still survive.

I have been around youths – Boys and Girls, that have made life difficult for themselves due to lack of knowledge. And my countenance has dwindled, because I have witnessed a holocaust of ruined lives in the past, even now.

I love peace and the prospect it brings. I love sanctuary – a foundation laid on the rocks of simplicity and the Arm of Justice.
I stand against the illegal acts displayed by the so-called Governmental body. I stand against rape, child abuse and its associated acts. I stand against the malfunctioning of child rights and value – I stand for a change, as an “Advocate”.

I stand as a Youth, Not a man, alone. But with men – the colony of change.
“A man cannot be a faculty, men can. The necessity of change begins with not one man, but with the uniformity of all”.
(Victor Omovbude Brown)

I stand against – Child punishment, Tribalism, criticism, Discrimination, and Queer visions. I stand for change, which is my first goal. As a youth, I stand for Unity, Peace and Progress.

I stand for a free and transparent Health service attributed to (children,youths and adults) – I stand against unequal rights and segregation in roles.
I stand for Quality Education – Void of preferential treatment, equal for all.
I stand against poor governance.

I am an “Advocate For Youth”.

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By: Sarah Bradley ’17

On April 5, I and another freshmen member of Students for Sexual Health attended the Planned Parenthood Advocacy Fund of Massachusetts conference for campus organizers, alongside representatives from UMASS-Amherst, Boston University, Tufts University, Northeastern University, Smith College, and Wellesley College. It was a day of instruction and reflection on how to improve our campus outreach programs, strengthen our campaigns, recruit new members, and facilitate those difficult conversations concerning reproductive social justice. Discussions were encouraged as we exchanged ideas and strategies. Representing Boston College—a school where we as a student group have no support from the administration and literally stand on non-BC property sidewalks to distribute condoms—we represented a unique situation within the group.

It was both frustrating and incredibly exciting to hear what other schools were doing, to hear about their incredibly fun and innovative events and creative campus outreach programs. When we explained our situation as an unrecognized sexual health group at a Catholic college, the other representatives were shocked. They were quick to suggest different ways to rally support and to promote our cause, regardless of our campus situation. And they had some great ideas.

Taking the train home, I found myself wishing I attended a more liberal college where our student group could have more freedom with our outreach programs. Then I realized: as great as it is that these other Massachusetts schools have the ability to rally on campus and receive administrative support, the fact remains that this is not the situation we face at Boston College—at least, not now.

I’m a freshman. That means that I have three more years to continue working with Students for Sexual Health here at BC. If I had attended a more progressive college, maybe sexual health would have just been another cause among the lineup of tables at the club fair. But attending a conservative college, as frustrating as it may be, is an important push that maybe I would not have experienced otherwise. It’s not about sulking over the lack of administrative support; it’s about taking it as a challenge.

Personally, I know that I have three more years ahead of me of standing on the sidewalk passing out condoms, holding events off campus, and doing our best even as an unofficial group to educate our peers. And while it may not happen during my time here as a student, SSH will be an official group someday—but even then, Students for Sexual Health will continue to advocate for our cause and for our right to educate our peers here at BC.

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Check out the link below to see more maps that show which states do not require certain issues to be covered in sex ed.

These Maps Show Where Kids in America Get Terrifying Sex Ed

via the Huffington Post and the Guttmacher Institute

Categories: Sex Education
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Many a time, I have tried to survey and parry the questioning effect on sex and its constituent. I believe it is a redefined commitment entitled to both parties ( man & woman ) on a divine standard.
The world we live in today define sex as a ‘social commitment’, which is a taboo to fundamental notions displayed from old.
Afore, Sex, occurs after a marriage right is fulfilled – which connects a man and a woman together perfectly. Today, sex, is now seen as an avenue to satisfy common urge.

* some say we should have sex to satisfy ourselves and set our burdens at ease.
* others say, when you feel the urge get someone to have sex with. And a girlfriend should serve as a friend with benefits.

Notion :
Sex is good and fun in the making, not to be confused with a Mutual Engagement between a male and a female. There are so many medical attributes linked to sex – one dominant property I know of is a reduction in emotional pressure or tension, resulting from ‘Anxiety’.

If we define sex on the basics of mutual engagement, then it is the right for every one (Adolescence,Teen,Youth and Adult), to have sex.
We have a situation where a boy of 16, gets a girl pregnant,at the expense of the so-called love. And the girl demands for an abortion or decides to conceive the child due to having sex at the wrong time.

Note :
There’s an increase in Abortion, Unwanted pregnancy and a retardation in fundamental growth of boys and girls. Most people who see sex as a social commitment end up having a bad experience, because they capitalise on the lust of satisfaction, instead of seeking to understand the reason for IT.

In most homes where a man considers sex more than his wife, there’s a high tendency for an upheaval of distrust to occur – which will massively dwindle their growth. Most who youths originated from these homes have become the heir of most illegal acts displayed in the world.
There’s an increase in divorce rate,children from this background become prone to harsh circumstance etc.

Youths who lack parental care and control end up doing irrational things, having unprotected and unwanted sex and other juvenile act.

I believe that if a minimum of 15% of youths are taught :

* Pre-sex affair and its influence.
* The fundamentals of sex education,
* Health education and its relation to sexuality.

Then change can commence.

My question :

* How do we educate boys and girls in : Developing and under-developed countries on sex education.

Proposed Query :

80% of youths living in these areas, constitute to the progression of illegal sex and the un-demanded notion it dictates.

Proposed Answer :

* I believe that changing the dialogue of sex affair is on great step .

Educating Youths on :
– what sex is ?
– why is sex needed ?
– what are the effects of sex on life ?
– who are the right persons to have sex ?
– And the required age for sex ?

* A notion I surveyed recently is doing a Poetry on sex-education : which will play a huge role in schools ( High school mostly, in rural and localised areas ).

In localised areas where there’s a gargantuan growth in sex rate, only few schools teach Sex education and a handful of these schools practise it.
– At locations where there are no computers for learning, no Adverts on sex-Ed, no Online orientation, and no seminars and outlets for diverse learning , an introduction to a reformed part of learning on sex education will help.

If we have a preamble poetry on sex education, health and orientation in under-developed areas, then we can help shape most of the questioning we have.

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Sometimes I ask myself questions : questions which are ever aching and proving stubborn to define or understand. I can’t recall the last time; a friend ,organization or social community discussed the affair of Youth Development via Sex Education and the threat it poses to Humanity and its affair.

In America there’s a flexible, progressive link for Sex development. Although not perfect but better than what we have here in Nigeria. At most case I have wondered why we are still in the loop hole ; a pit filled with ill-fated people who only acknowledge the receipt of their welfare.

The role of sex Education , is to foster a spontaneous change in : Sexuality, Heterosexual-conscience,Attitude and also promote a Beneficial role in Moral and Value. Youths , (especially boys), will massively grow in self esteem as it will tremendously shape Thoughts and increase a positive intake in Sex orientation and Education.

Educating people on Pre-sex Affair which is the Basics for a good foundation on Youth sexuality, will change lives. What we fail to understand is our, ” inability to Define what Sex Education and the Orientation it has on Youths”.

Sex education is instruction on issues
relating to human sexuality, including
human sexual anatomy, sexual reproduction, sexual activity, reproductive health, emotional relations, reproductive rights and responsibilities, abstinence, and birth control. Common avenues for sex education are parents or caregivers, formal school programs, and public health campaigns.

sex education is defined as a vital public health strategy – which will play a role in the Reduction of STDs : By initializing Health centers, Health tips, Options (Gadget) and Orientation. And will also diminish an increase in Abnormal Behaviors displayed by Youths (Boys mostly) ; which are ,Bullying, Coercion and Discrimination). If Every youth know the basics (i.e, its preventive methods (Abstinence), techniques, and Healthy tips) then we can have a possible outbreak of change in Heterosexuality.

I believe that when people become enormously aware of their Sexuality and how it tends to : Affect, Diminish and Increase STATUS’, we will begin to see change – Fundamentally, Socially and Mentally in schools, society, Environment and the world at large.

Starting with schools – which is a great idea, is one profound step. Advocating Sex-ed in public places, outlets like Seminars, NGO programs and other governmental aids will contribute too.

We need to spread the word which is a,”PROMOTION ON SEX-ED” in schools, outlets, Rural and Urban sphere and other geographical locations.

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Sometimes I ask myself questions : questions which are ever aching and proving stubborn to define or understand. I can’t recall the last time; a friend ,organization or social community discussed the affair of Youth Development via Sex Education and the threat it poses to Humanity and its affair.

In America there’s a flexible, progressive link for Sex development. Although not perfect but better than what we have here in Nigeria. At most case I have wondered why we are still in the loop hole ; a pit filled with ill-fated people who only acknowledge the receipt of their welfare.

The role of sex Education , is to foster a spontaneous change in : Sexuality, Heterosexual-conscience,Attitude and also promote a Beneficial role in Moral and Value. Youths , (especially boys), will massively grow in self esteem as it will tremendously shape Thoughts and increase a positive intake in Sex orientation and Education.

Educating people on Pre-sex Affair which is the Basics for a good foundation on Youth sexuality, will change lives. What we fail to understand is our, ” inability to Define what Sex Education and the Orientation it has on Youths”.

Sex education is instruction on issues
relating to human sexuality, including
human sexual anatomy, sexual reproduction, sexual activity, reproductive health, emotional relations, reproductive rights and responsibilities, abstinence, and birth control. Common avenues for sex education are parents or caregivers, formal school programs, and public health campaigns.

sex education is defined as a vital public health strategy – which will play a role in the Reduction of STDs : By initializing Health centers, Health tips, Options (Gadget) and Orientation. And will also diminish an increase in Abnormal Behaviors displayed by Youths (Boys mostly) ; which are ,Bullying, Coercion and Discrimination). If Every youth know the basics (i.e, its preventive methods (Abstinence), techniques, and Healthy tips) then we can have a possible outbreak of change in Heterosexuality.

I believe that when people become enormously aware of their Sexuality and how it tends to : Affect, Diminish and Increase STATUS’, we will begin to see change – Fundamentally, Socially and Mentally in schools, society, Environment and the world at large.

Starting with schools – which is a great idea, is one profound step. Advocating Sex-ed in public places, outlets like Seminars, NGO programs and other governmental aids will contribute too.

We need to spread the word which is a,”PROMOTION ON SEX-ED” in schools, outlets, Rural and Urban sphere and other geographical locations.

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The American porn industry: a world of opportunity for both actors and consumers. Everyone wins, right? Actors and actresses with “desired features” have sex and get paid for their performances; meanwhile, consumers happily perpetuate a market with an estimated value of between $10 and $13 billion, which boosts our nation’s economy. By virtue of increased access to pornographic content through the Internet, the industry has permeated American culture so much that the average person views their first pornographic image at the age of 11. Moreover, by 2006, pornographic videos were released on an average of one every half hour.

This is how capitalists would describe the porn industry. They love it because it’s profitable… and it’s also seemingly becoming more “normal.” But while it can be easy to “normalize” the porn industry in light of statistics like the ones above, the porn industry is far from normal. Notably, the actors and actresses who star in pornographic films are subject to abnormal, oftentimes degrading treatment by the same people who consume their products. This fact may not be readily apparent for most of us – how many pornographic actors do we know personally? More than likely, we know none. Porn actors per capita in an arguably moral nation like the U.S. are few; moreover, those who do star in pornography use stage names – most of the time to protect their anonymity. However, for one freshman at Duke University, the struggle to function in society while performing in pornographic films took a serious turn when her anonymity as a porn star was stripped away from her.

Most of America knows her by her stage name, “Belle Knox.”  Her real name is Miriam Weeks, but she has only recently divulged her birth name – out of fear. This 18 year-old Duke University freshman has starred in over 30 pornographic films. Weeks has claimed that starring in pornography brings her both confidence and economic stability. On the one hand, Weeks says that as a degree-seeking 18 year-old, no other job could provide her with enough income to pay for her education – a hefty $50,000 per year bill. On the other hand, Weeks states that freely doing pornography is a part of her agenda as a person – she confidently approaches the adult film industry as a way for her to express herself as a woman and to take a stand against the way sex workers are ostracized.

However, after a fellow Duke student “outed” her name to her classmates, Weeks’ struggle as a pornographic actress trying to live a normal life has spiraled. Her ideals and her dignity have been shattered by threats of rape and death, opinions of her perceived economic freedom, critiques of her morality, and objectifications of her body above consideration of her personal ideals. Intense public scrutiny of her aspirations of becoming a respected member of society while working in the porn industry have done an injustice to the human worth of Miriam Weeks and highlight several important problems with the way this country treats sex workers.

By virtue of our technological society, it is much harder for sex workers to remain anonymous. And when these workers are put in the spotlight, our culture’s perpetual stigmatization of their profession leads to many negative, unwarranted responses on a large scale. Disagreeing with sex work is one matter. However, “slut shaming,” often in the form of death threats, rape threats, belittling, bullying, and objectification are unwarranted but present byproducts of being “outed” as a sex worker in our morally conscious culture. While it can be easy for us to think that sex workers have the ability to shrug off degrading comments because of their knowledge of how many people perceive their work, studies have proven otherwise: Extensive literature on the psychological state of sex workers has shown that the suicide rate among sex workers is six times that of the rest of the population. Clearly, these degrading comments are unsurprisingly degrading the mental and emotional state of sex workers at an unconscionable rate.

A second issue at stake for men and women like Miriam Weeks is society’s perception of the true freedom of sex workers. In Weeks’ case, many have argued that the pressure of paying for college has “coerced” the Duke freshman to seek sex work as a means to survive in a country that often prioritizes the value of an education. This is simply not true, according to Weeks, who claims that the money is only one of several reasons why she loves staring in adult films. However, although Weeks has asserted that she feels completely free to choose to do porn, it is not fair to say that all sex workers engage in their work purely out of their own free will. Sometimes, we hear stories of men and women in disparaging economic circumstances, who resort to sex work as a means to stay alive.

But why do some of us instantly typify Miriam Weeks as one of these people who do sex work as a “last resort” – a way to survive economically? Maybe its because when it comes to sex work, many of us are sharply divided on the issue, even though all of us are trained by society to find compassion for others, especially the “marginalized” members of our community (e.g., sex workers, as you probably guessed.) It’s not necessarily our fault: as soon as a conversation about porn starts, so starts the stigma, and instead of believing the possibility that a human being could ever want to do sex work, some of us tell ourselves that the person is just short on money. They’re just getting by until some other opportunity comes up. We excuse them for making the decision to sell their bodies. But when we perceive sex workers collectively as un-free workers, we all too often put words in their mouths. We rob them collectively of the value of their ability to choose. We rob them of their dignity as a rational human being.

Dignity: a word normally not associated with sex workers. But is there any inherent dignity working as a porn star? Miriam Weeks argues that this question is perceived with great bias by a majority of our society. I couldn’t agree more. There is an inherent dichotomy in the ways in which our society thinks about pornography. Although roughly 50% of American citizens freely admit to watching porn regularly, Weeks thinks that society at large has a tendency to shame pornographic actors and actresses publically and professionally while they cannot get enough of it privately. I cannot help but agree with Weeks that this enigma is one of the great plagues of our society. We jerk off with one hand, and we point our fingers with the other.

Breaking down this dichotomy will be a fundamentally challenging but necessary step to search for justice in the many issues surrounding our perception of sex workers. But the struggle for fair treatment of sex workers only begins there. We as a society also need to stop slut shaming as a means of expressing our discontent with someone’s profession. We need to realize that nobody likes being degraded; even if we consider someone derogatory, they are still a human, equally deserving of dignity and respect. Moreover, we need to give back the freedom of choice that we oftentimes take away from sex workers. Instead of being content with telling ourselves that sex workers as a whole are economically disabled, we should work to ensure that all sex workers are economically enabled. We should help those who are not as fortunate as Miriam Weeks and are struggling economically to be able to choose a career just like everyone else.

In closing, I’d like to address that I say “we” throughout this article because this issue affects all of us. Even if you have never watched pornography (I will be a little skeptical of that, but I will take your word for it) or you have not engaged in sex work, I’m sure someone you know has directly or indirectly struggled with the sex-negativity that so pervades our culture. We need to break the stigma surrounding sex work in our society because the reality is that some of us desire to engage in sex work. And no human being deserves to hear that their desires are disgusting.

By: Eric Thomas Roy


1.  http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pornography_in_the_United_States#Economics and


2.  http://www.internetsafety101.org/Pornographystatistics.htm

3.  http://www.internetsafety101.org/Pornographystatistics.htm

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Sex(ed) The Movie Website

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Check out this upcoming film on sex ed in America! From the website the movie is self-described as:

“To get at the truth behind the history and current state of sex education in the United States, SEX(ed) The Movie examines sex education films from the 1920s up to the present day. Often hilarious, sometimes instructive, and almost always awkward and embarrassing,these films reflect the changing moral, cultural and political attitudes that inspired them.”

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Family planning is a method of managing family health through application of appropriate methodologies suitable for the couple in order to maintain quality of life of his/her family. The term, in a nutshell, describe how to plan own family in order to adopt a happy and healthy life. It includes every procedure of maintaining owns family size to a manageable number so that we can give full and required attention to our children along with a thinking on the care that is needed by the parents themselves.
Family planning is the decision of a couple on when to conceive a children by the use of birth control and other techniques to implement such plans. Other techniques commonly used include sexuality education, prevention and management of sexually transmitted infections, pre-conception counseling and management, and infertility management.
At least 200 million women want to use safe and effective family planning methods, but are unable to do so because they lack access to information and services or the support of their husbands and communities. And more than 50 million of the 190 million women who become pregnant each year have abortions.
so sex education is a must part of family planning methods which must be acquired by the couple in order to avoid unwanted pregnancy and limit the number of children to a certain number for which access of facilities and care is possible. With a care on this family planing is described as “educational, comprehensive medical or social activities which enable individuals, including minors, to determine freely the number and spacing of their children and to select the means by which this may be achieved”.

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According to DoSomething.org, “more than 90 percent of parents of junior high and high school students believe that it is somewhat or very important for sex education to be included in the curriculum”. And yet, if a basic question regarding sex is typed into Google, some of the most popular results include webpages such as Yahoo Answers. Many schools across the United States currently push for the abstinence-only, Mean Girls approach (“Don’t’ have sex, because you will get pregnant and die!”) Yet even if these schools are not providing students with information regarding sex education, students will find their own means to understand their questions—often, from unreliable sources such as Internet forums, or word of mouth from other students.

College campuses provide a unique opportunity to learn first-hand what high school sex education programs are like in various states; try asking classmates from different locations what their experience has been in the past. For example, I attended an urban high school in Pennsylvania, where I received an intensive sex education class in ninth grade that covered all methods of contraception, how they are used, and their effectiveness. In contrast, I have a friend from a rural town in Washington whose sex education class was shorter than one semester and consisted of an abstinence-only approach. When I asked him how he pursued the answers to his questions regarding sex education, his answer was simple: the Internet.

You know how teachers are picky about research paper sources, strongly against the use of sites like Wikipedia, but advocating for researched articles? Those Internet forums on informal sex education are like Wikipedia for your body. Young students are getting their own information from complete strangers on Internet forums who claim to know all the answers—answers that may prove unreliable and unsafe. Our generation is at high risk for unplanned pregnancies and contraction of STDs, and the public school system is doing little or nothing to help. Abstinence-only methods are ineffective; if students want to know more, they have endless resources—thank you, Internet—to help them do their own research. Yet these methods are not as reliable and not nearly as trustworthy as a researched curriculum would be to students in the classroom.

Young students have the right to learn about their sexual health. The choices they make outside the classroom are their own. But if every student is provided with an equal level of education in regard to prevention of STDs, unintended pregnancies, and equal understanding of their sexual health, then every student has an equal chance to be healthy in their sexual choices. (And P.S.—the parents agree.)


Sarah Bradley ’17

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The Big picture :

Rape- is a word which is supposed to be wiped out of existence. Most girls in the rural and urban ares extensively suffer from this dreadful cause. It’s a shame to see young girls go through this uncomfortable act.

Raped girls now have STDs , unwanted pregnancy and some may die as a result been bartered.

When parents mutter at words, ungodly things happen. And when girls feel reluctant they become victims to this cause. I blame non, it is simply because there’s no unity and the law holding the term for rape has almost been ridden off.

Every GIRL child DESERVES a brighter future. Why not share the word!

What\’s your say on RAPE !

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By Matt Mazzari

It’s no secret that Catholic-affiliated universities in America struggle with open discussions of sexuality on their campuses.  The fundamental discomfort that religious educational administrations feel regarding issues such as contraception, STI prevention and pre-marital sexual activity in general make it difficult for students at places like my own school, Boston College, to have the oh-so-very important conversations about birth control and sexual health that are oh-so-very relevant to university life.

Of course, acknowledging that these unnecessary taboos exist isn’t to say that progressive conversation isn’t happening anyway.  At BC, students simply find outlets for discussions of sexuality on our own.  Just a few weeks ago, a theatre group of female undergraduates put on three full-house performances of The Vagina Monologues.  Before that, I saw the LGBTQ allies of BC flood an anti-marriage equality lecture on campus with their assertively-tolerant presence.  This semester, I’m taking a course titled “Spirituality and Sexuality” with an openly gay professor wherein my classmates are talking about their own experiences with sex and its relevance (positive and negative) to their religious lives.

Just because certain members of the administration aren’t appreciative of how important these issues are doesn’t mean that the students are going to be silent about them.  The simple fact of the matter is that the vast majority (approximately 75%) of U.S. college students are sexually active, and religious institutions like Boston College are not some miraculous exception.

So yes, students here generally recognize the importance of sexual health to at least some extent.  And it makes sense, right?  A constant topic of controversy for BC is the “hook-up culture”, which students and external perspectives alike have described as being especially pervasive on this campus; any statistically literate person can tell you that this social scene in combination with a lack of sexual health awareness programs is a recipe for disaster, particularly when you consider the fact that 1 in 2 sexually active people will contract an STD by the age of 25. In a survey from 2009, about 90% of BC students answered in support of having access to contraceptive resources, i.e. condoms, available on campus.  It’s pretty clear where the student body (pun-intended) stands on this matter of promoting sexual health.

But if we’re basically all in agreement, why is having a group like the Students for Sexual Health so important at BC?

Personally, I became a part of SSH relatively late; I’m a senior now, and I only went to my first meeting last semester.  I’d seen them handing out condoms at the corner of College Road and Hammond Street since I was a freshman living on Upper Campus.  I remember hearing about the “incidents”: the counter-activism from conservative clubs on campus, the frequent harassment they dealt with from the campus police, or that one time they got yelled at by a priest during condom distribution outside of McElroy.  But despite being aware of the problem and the ludicrous knock-back SSH was encountering, it wasn’t really until this year that it dawned on me that progress just doesn’t seem to be coming along fast enough.

Just look at the political sphere!  Backwards opinions on sexual health aren’t exclusive to Catholic university campuses: since the Affordable Care Act was passed in March of 2010, one of the central controversies has been the coverage of birth control as part of health expenses.  Because, I guess, sexual health isn’t a part of…health?  By last year, nearly a hundred federal lawsuits had been filed specifically in opposition to ACA’s birth control benefits.  The Supreme Court has recently ceded to the demands of several Catholic Organizations regarding this issue.  For instance, the owners of a company named Hobby Lobby, a for-profit Arts and Crafts material-supplier with no open religious affiliation, successfully argued that the Religious Freedom Restoration Act (RFRA) grants them exemption from providing their employees with birth control insurance based solely on their own religious beliefs.

I’m sorry, but what?!

         How in the name of all that is reasonable does a corporation justify denying its employees federally-guaranteed health care on the basis of the CEO’s personal religion?  So, even though 99% of sexually-active women report having used birth control, that medical expense somehow doesn’t count?  The owners of an Arts and Crafts company just have to say “We think the Pill was invented by Satan” and then they automatically don’t have to provide the women in their company with medical coverage they obviously need?  Should we also take away insurance coverage of blood transfusions if a company owner is part of Jehovah’s Witness?  Should we take away people’s chemo treatment if their manager believes exclusively in faith-healing? The fact that President Obama and Congress are entertaining these demands is extremely unsettling.  Not only does this fly in the face of everything that a national health care plan is supposed to be, it perpetuates an attitude towards young persons’ sexuality (female sexuality in particular) that is incredibly dangerous and wrongheaded, resulting  in the continued high-rates of accidental pregnancies, VD transmission, and general ignorance that have proven to be problematic in the past.

So that’s why I’m a part of this club, SSH.  It’s not because I’m pessimistic about my campus or the students’ attitude here at BC; it’s not because I believe in anything more radical than “everyone should know how to have protected sex”; it’s not even because I want the federal government to provide Americans with anything beyond what it has already agreed to provide.  It’s because the opponents to programs like SSH are still so vocal and powerful, and there is still such a long way to go.  When our country finally reaches the point where it has covered that distance in sexual education and provision of necessary resources, I want to be able to say I was a part of that movement, that I was a Student for Sexual Health.

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Organizations that truly and honestly support teenage parents are limited and at best growing in number.

These organizations are literally a life line for the parents they are able to support and help the only problem is I would like to see them go a bit further and further educate the teenage parents they help when it comes to sexual heath decisions, mental health, and relationships.
Many times the parents that these organizations are assisting need more in depth conversation and instruction on building and sustaining basic skills. While the support they provide is essential I would like to see them take on the role of comprehensive sex education counselor to ensure that the young parents actually know how to get tested for STI/STD’s regularly, while ensuring they are seeing a gyno at least once a year, how to find an affordable birth control, what to do if they have a missed period or forgot to take the pill, and what an STI or STD infection can look and feel like.
The stress of teenage parenthood is extremely high, so high that teenage parents are at higher risk for postpartum depression than any other age group.
Lessons on how to deal with, manage, and identify stressful triggers are extremely necessary and wanted by teen parents. We want to know how to deal with all the emotions and energy we are feeling within ourselves and the emotions and energy directed at us by family, friends, and sometimes perfect strangers.
In my experience more times than not the mothers I meet have been in an emotionally, physically, or sexually abusive relationship. While we, myself included, may feel like something is “not right” we are sometimes unable to identify the abuse we are experiencing for abuse for a multitude of reasons.
While we advocate for comprehensive sex education, rights for teenage parents, equitable access to services and programs that teenage parents and families need we, as organizations, people, and advocates need to create a space where these instructions and lessons are being taught and fully received in the interim.

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Sex education can be defined as instruction on issues relating to human sexuality, including human sexual anatomy, sexual reproduction, sexual activity, reproductive health, emotional relations, reproductive rights and responsibilities, abstinence, and birth control. Common avenues for sex education are parents or caregivers, formal school programs, and public health campaigns.
Burt defined sex education as the study of the characteristics of beings: a male and female. Such characteristics make up the person’s sexuality. Sexuality is an important aspect of the life of a human being and almost all people, including children, want to know about it. Sex education includes all the educational measures which – regardless of the particular method used – may center on sex. He further said that sex education stands for protection, presentation extension, improvement and development of the family based on accepted ethical ideas. Leepson sees sex education as instruction in various physiological, psychological and sociological aspects of sexual response and reproduction. Kearney (2008) also defined sex education as “involving a comprehensive course of action by the school, calculated to bring about the socially desirable attitudes, practices and personal conduct on the part of children and adults, that will best protect the individual as a human and the family as a social institution.”
Whatever the definitions of the sex educations are provided by the experts when it comes to the implementation, it becomes always hard to fully follow the definition and it’s not always absolutely possible to provide such education.
Nothing can be perfect as I think and in case of sex education also, I think there are so much missing factors that is not covered by the sex education in context of Nepal and many other countries as well. Here is something that I realize that the sex education could not cover but should have cover
Sex education, as it stands today, is more or less diagram after diagram of the biological ins and outs of human reproductive behavior.
Humans are uniquely sexual creatures. We screw each other far more often and in far more elaborate ways than pretty much every other species on the planet.
That’s because for humans sexual activity is more than a mere biological urge, it has psychological significance and social meaning. We screw for pleasure. We screw for recreation. We screw for passion. We screw for revenge. We screw nice people and mean people, friends and enemies, sexy people and ugly people. We screw because we’re happy and because we’re sad. We screw because we’re bored. We screw because we feel alone. We screw because we’re in love. And yes, we screw to make babies, too. Although in the developing world, that’s rarely the primary motivation these days. So why is it all sex education focuses on?
Sex ed should account for the recreational, social and emotional reasons for sex and their consequences. It should discuss the interpersonal meaning of intercourse, setting clear expectations and boundaries, communicating desires, dealing with feelings of shame and awkwardness, and of course, being responsible about protection and privacy.
Sex is more than just a BIOLOGY
Sex can be amazing. Some of the best moments of one’s life can happen engorged in someone else. So let’s talk about it.This sounds so obvious when you say it. Yet no one seems to say it.

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“Nothing decisive,Nothing sustainable,can be done in our country as long as this important part of ourselves remains in the oppression imposed on them by different systems of exploitation….the true empowerment of women is that which makes the woman responsible,that includes her in productive activities, and in the fight against the different challenges faced by our people. The true emancipation of women is that which forces consideration and respect from men”
Though these words may sounds like those of a convinced women’s rights activist of the second decade of the 21st century, they aren’t. These are words from Burkinabe revolutionary leader Thomas Sankara to women gathered to celebrate International Women’s day on March 8th 1987 a few months before his assassination.
The above was not only an appeal for women to never lose sight of the fundamental role they play in the progress of a society, but above all, a call to men and society as a whole to support them as they selflessly invest in the nation’s future at times through acts of courage that are often taken for granted or ignored such as beautifully balancing their role as mother, caretaker of the family, and increasingly bread winner for most families in my part of the world.
Rural Women deserve more……
 The brave women of the rural areas of Cameroonlive what I call “A life of service to the community” by waking up early to prepare the children for school; prepare breakfast for the family; toil all day in farms; return home late and despite the hard day’s work prepare dinner for the family. This makes me so proud of these women and reinforces my conviction that they merit more attention than is currently being accorded them by politicians and policy makers in the far away capital cities and comfortable skyscrapers in Yaounde, Addis Ababa, and NewYork.
Women make up more than half of Cameroon’s vastly youthful population. A majority of this very “important part of ourselves” live in the most ignoble of conditions in its rural areas and are on a daily basis subjected to torture, rape, and abuses of all sorts by men who are themselves oppressed by a society in which the gap between the very rich and the very poor is ever widening.
Economic Injustice is an Effective fertilizer for the Oppression of Women
Yes, a man who is powerless in the face of  his family’s inability to eat to their fill; cannot pay  health bills for his family; and cannot afford to send his children to school,  transfers the injustice done  him by society to his wife, sister, and daughteronly  in the face of whom he feels  “a real man”.Non-inclusive redistribution of a country’s resources therefore leads not only to economic inequality among a nation’s citizens but aggravates the already existing inequality through abuses of all sorts on women and girls.
Achievement of Millennium Development Goals is impossible without women 
Thus, greater economic opportunity is to be extended to rural area dwellers if the Millennium Development Goals to which this year’s International Women’s Day is dedicated are to ever be achieved and this cannot be done without the brave women who though living in these socially challenged areas, have put their lives “at the service of the community”

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A court in Lebanon has made a historic ruling stating same-sex relations are NOT “contradicting the laws of nature” and cannot therefore be considered a crime. The judge threw out a case brought against a transgender woman by the Lebanese state on January 28, 2014 but only published today.

Article 534 of the Lebanese Penal Code prohibits having sexual relations that are “contradicting the laws of nature,” which is punishable by up to a year in prison. However, Lebanese LGBT organization, “Helem” argued that, “Homosexuality is an exception to the norms but not unnatural… therefore article 534 cannot be used against homosexuals, and therefore, technically, homosexuality is not illegal.”

Moreover, Last year the Lebanese Psychiatric Society (LPS) ruled that homosexuality is not a mental disorder and does not need to be treated. It stated, “The assumption that homosexuality is a result of disturbances in the family dynamic or unbalanced psychological development is based on wrong information.”

The more such rulings happen, the more irrelevant becomes article 534. Baby steps for LGBT rights in Lebanon, but a great step in the right direction. I hope this can be replicated in other Arab states which have similar legislation.

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For the month of February, besides attending a Jack and Jill health fair in Fort. Lauderdale, I began my ‘Contraception Awareness Campaign.’  This project is an endeavor that will last for about 8 weeks at my attempt to get 200 people on my campus to learn something new about contraception. My goal is to peer educate at least 25 people every week while I table at my college.  (I will provide information like how to get contraception, the proper way to store them, comparative analysis between brands including breaking myths, as well as educating the importance of contraception in preventing pregnancy). In my first week, there were approximately 40-80 people in attendance and we collected 40 sign ups. The focus was ‘How well do you know your STI’s?’ Although many people came up and played our game, it took an engineering major to win the $25 It’s sugar gift card give-away!  Also around Valentine’s Day, I took part in hosting a love Workshop on my campus in order to educate the students on healthy relationships and contraception use. My passion for educating my peers on this controversial topic comes from recognizing the important role contraceptives play in people’s futures.  As an incredible philosopher once said “Neglect of an effective birth control policy is a never-failing source of poverty which, in turn, is the parent of revolution and crime.” —ARISTOTLE, Politics.

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A girl who used to feel shy to utter the word ‘Condom’, now can freely talk on any issues of sexual and reproductive health with any people. This sentence defines me before and after the inception training of Youth Activist Leadership Council(YALC). Many times, what happens is that though we may be highly interested and curious to know the SRHR issues but due to our culture and the people we are surrounded with, we can’t find the suitable person with whom we can share our feelings and solve our curiosity.Hence, we supress them giving continuity to our shyness and remain doubtful.

After,attending the training of YALC, I can analyse the change within me. I realized the vibrant role that can be played by such trainings. It was 3 days training where the whole thing was designed to create a suitable evvironment to express oneself and understand the SRHR issues in a matured way.The sessions were designed in infotainment way which could easily grab the youths attention. All those interesting facts, knowing different sexual and reproductive terminologies, amazing wierd games and crazy team with their craziest jokes made the environment much interesting and friendly. So within that 3 days, I was so familiar with SRHR issues.

With this experience, I realised the need and the crucial role that can be played by such trainings among the youngsters.It can be the best thing for youngster who are seeking someone to share and sort out their curiosity. As for me, it was one of the memorable moment and a milestone to express mysef regarding the SRHR issues. Hence, same thing could be experienced by many youngster and raise the awareness level if such trainings are frequently organised.

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A few days ago I had the privilege of visiting the State House for a presentation.  Around eight high school students bravely stood at a podium in front of a few members of the House of Representatives to present a policy proposal. They wanted to request $12,000 for simulator baby dolls for their class to take home to encourage the sex education discussion with their respective guardians. The simulator baby dolls would be a learning and prevention experiment which the students believe will help with keeping the lines of communication open in an effort to prevent teenage pregnancy.   When asked why this is needed and how it would be successful, students replied that teenage pregnancy in their town (similar to cities all over the US) is an issue.  Their theory is that the root of the problem is that there is no substantive discussion about prevention and other options because they’re just told by guardians and educators that there should be “no sex at all” without any additional information.  The students believe their proposal would work because it’s hard to “ignore a crying baby” and it would be an instant conversation starter in the home.  I admire these students diligence in choosing a project that they have identified as needing immediate attention in their communities; that is how constructive change begins.  For more discussion on comprehensive sex education visit www.advocatesforyouth.org.

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The explain of the subject  like gender,identity,role of and attraction on the basis of gender,sexual entertainment and fertility over all is called sexual,the process to bring change in the knowledge, attitude and behavior about this is called sexual education. In our society i.e male and female are in practice. According to once gender person behave to others. If people get positive sexual education they can make their suitable concept on sexual value and norms and belief about sex people get appropriate knowledge about how the sexual organs develop, why they develop and how can they manage the sexual desire? Sexual education teachers people in what way should they do the sexual contact so that the both side can be benefited. Similarly,it helps a person on how one should express the sexuality and in what way one should do responsible behavior according to sexuality and how a person can maintain sexual in better way etc.


According to the health education,it is not only necessary for the male and female but also the third gender should understand about sexual behavior just like females. Similarly,often females too show sexual behavior just like males. We should respect to the third sexuality of such third gender.

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Today is National Black HIV/AIDS Awareness Day. Instead of writing statistical facts about HIV/AIDS in the Black community, I will share a personal story of overcoming my fear of getting tested.

I became sexually active during my junior year of college. I read everything I could about sex and contraceptives before my encounter with my first partner. The consequences of possibly getting pregnant, contracting an STI or HIV was a risk I definitely reduced by using condoms and birth control.

So why was I so fearful of getting tested for HIV several months later?

At this point, I was heavily involved in sexual health groups on campus and was a member of the great Young Women of Color Leadership Council (shameless plug). I was an educator, and an advocate for sexual health, but I couldn’t bring it to myself to commit to getting tested.

I felt like a hypocrite.

While promoting National Black HIV/AIDS Awareness Day on campus three years ago, I told myself to stop living in fear and to get tested. I was nervous all day. I sat in class thinking all about my sexual health and history. Sure, I had been tested for STI’s like gonorrhea, chlamydia, and syphilis at my school’s health center, but I felt so sure that I couldn’t possibly be HIV positive…

And that’s where the issue lies. The idea that I was so sure, so confident, so affirming of my status, that I had delayed getting tested. In reality, I had no clue. I made myself believe that being HIV positive couldn’t happen to me!

Later that evening, I walked into the testing site and performed a rapid HIV test. Although it said rapid, it felt like forever to hear the results. The man I sat with was extremely consoling and helpful. We chatted about sexual health and the work we do in our communities. His passion and support helped me through the wait.

At last, I got my results. I was negative. A lot of things ran through my mind: relief, happiness, tears of joy, but also guilt.

I felt guilty that someone might go in there and not hear the same results I did. I also felt guilty that I spoke on such a mighty pedestal and pressured my peers to get tested for HIV when I was afraid myself.

The day I got tested was a learning lesson for me. As young people, we often feel that we are invincible. Regardless of my knowledge about sexual health, it’s my duty first to make sure that I know my status. I felt like I couldn’t get HIV, but in reality, it was a possibility.

Be confident in knowing your status through getting tested every 6 months. Do not hesitate to ask your partner if they’ve been tested either. DO NOT allow anyone to make you feel bad about questioning their sexual health history. Include condom use along with other forms of contraceptives.

I can confidently share this advice because I am following it myself.

It’s time for us to stop living in the unknown.

Peace and love,



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This month I planned my Passion Project which I will be focusing on for the first half of 2014. It is centered on providing people with information on contraceptive access, and bringing awareness to my campus about ways the students can protect themselves.  I plan to table on campus weekly for two consecutive months in order to reach a minimum of 200 people. During these tabling events I will have one on one peer education sessions, a question box, interactive training, and giveaways. Most excitingly, I will be gaining more support for the Healthy Teens Campaign. February and March are going to be productive months, and I most look forward to seeing the positive impact that educated youth will have on our communities.


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We teach young men to be prepared, to be assertive, to choose their own destiny. And yet, too often when it comes to making decisions about their reproductive futures we haven’t delivered the message that they need to step up. When 38% of young men have a fatalistic view about contraception’s effect on fertility and pregnancy* or 53% are ambivalent about becoming a father*, it’s clear we haven’t told young men they can play an active role in determining when, how, or if they want to become fathers. (more…)