Long ago, a Roman Priest called Valentine went against the laws of Emperor Claudius who had an edict that prohibited the marriage of young people. He believed unmarried soldiers fought better than married soldiers because married soldiers might be afraid of what might happen to them or their wives or families if they died. Valentine was eventually caught, imprisoned and tortured before he was sentenced to an ugly death for performing marriage ceremonies against command of Emperor Claudius the second. Thus, history was not as pleasant as the present. Feb 14 marks the day when Saint Valentine was killed.
Since then, people started to celebrate February 14 as Valentine’s Day in memory of Saint Valentine. Moreover, the whole month is regarded as the month of love when most of the people long for the quality time with their beloveds. And Nepal, too, is no exception as the western cultures have influenced the urban areas to a great deal. Furthermore, the young generation of Nepal seems to value February as the month of love more than any other generations. But, is our generation celebrating it the right/safe way?
With globalization came the direct imitation of the western cultures which can be hazardous to the comparatively backward society as of Nepal. We do not have the open society as of the Westerners. Thus, the young people see this month as a perfect time to engage in sexual activities with their loved ones. And there arises the question that how many are well aware of contraceptives, unwanted pregnancies, sexually transmitted diseases and the adverse effect of their cultural dogma? Very less parents discuss ‘sex education’ with their children here. Teachers, in most of the schools, too, find it very difficult to explain the sex education to their students. As a result, most of the youngsters, mainly teenagers, are deprived of the basic knowledge about sexual health. And they are well unaware of the dark sides of the direct imitation of the western culture. This may lead things to a serious disaster.
Today, the youngsters may have a vague idea about sex education. But that alone is not enough. For example, the knowledge to use a condom during sexual intercourse may not be adequate to prevent unwanted pregnancy and sexual disease. They should know the proper way of using condom and its disposal after the intercourse. The introduction of different emergency contraceptive pills can be seen in the different forms of advertisements. But the ones using it should know the proper dose and the side effects of it and should be careful while using it.
Moreover, youngsters should also understand that loving your partner need not always result to sexual relationship. Rather one can hug, kiss and apply other various ways to show affection. And if they are mature enough to take the decision for sexual intercourse then they must take the safe steps accompanied by pleasure as well. Hence, let’s not make the month of love into the month of disgust. Love responsibly!