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The more I think about it, the more I realize that people in this world are seriously weird. We are constantly trying to police things that do not need policing – body sizes, vaginas, love, wombs etc. I really can’t get over  the fact that people get all het up about things that don’t even concern or affect them and then try to control it all by encouraging the government to trespass in people’s lives.

Why are you so concerned about who I choose to spend the rest of my life with? Have kids with? Why do you tell me that I shouldn’t have affordable birth control? That I can’t have condoms on my college campus because they will encourage promiscuity; and then when I fall pregnant, deny me the right to terminate a pregnancy that I did not plan for? A pregnancy which will change my life forever? And more on that, why are you so hypocritical that you claim to fight for the rights of unborn children, yet do nothing to help those who are already born and do not have parents, food, shelter or healthcare? Neither will you assist me in raising my child if I do give in to your concessions and carry my pregnancy to term.

There I go again…rambling.

What brought me here is this article on Jezebel about a man named Mister Cee. He’s apparently a former DJ with Hot 97 (I have no idea what that is). During an interview with Morning Show‘s Ebro he apparently said the following:

I know I’m still in denial because I know that I love women — any woman that’s been with me knows that I love women — but occasionally I get the urge to have fellatio with a transsexual: a man that looks like a woman. But I’m here saying I’m not gay because I haven’t penetrated another man.

I will not be the one to define this man’s sexuality because I hate when people do that to me. Also, human sexuality is an ever-changing phenomenon and no-one should be reduced to a mere checkbox. This is not the same thing as “good Christian girls” who claim that they are virgins because all they’ve done is cunnilingus and anal. With that being said, I feel sorry for this poor man because he has been pushed into denying his urges by a society that constantly judges others by the most superficial things.

This brings to mind a similar case involving rapper Chingy, who has been accused of consorting with transgendered women on a few occasions. In one incident involving model Sidney Starr, the model claimed that after Chingy discovered that she had male genitalia he allegedly said, “Nah, I still want that. I still want that.” Well what’s the problem with that? The man met someone, was attracted, and was not fazed by the appearance of a penis instead of a vagina. Granted, it turned out to be a lie told by Starr but  still, I don’t understand what the big deal is really.

I guess for me it’s different because what’s on the outside doesn’t really matter. I don’t care what bits you’ve got in yer knickers as long as there’s a connection and it’s real.

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