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Early marriage is one of the key issues affecting female children between the ages of 9-17. These occur mostly in the northern part of Nigeria where they believe a child’s first menstrual period should be in the husband’s house. In some cases, these girls are even given out before they were born to a man old enough to be their father.  Could this be poverty or should I say culture? Some cultural practices have led us astray, causing harm to young people who are being fed with these lies. Making the girl child see herself like a baby making factory but funny enough they are still born into abject poverty.

What would u call these??

Will you tell me a girl child does not have a right over her own life?? Only if they can see better, educating and giving children equal right to life, not selling her out at a tender age where she still falls under the dependency age. Early marriage had generally affected girl child in all areas: educationally, morally and physically. Most of these kids end up having Visio-Vaginal Fistula (VVF). Most part of the northern Nigeria practice early marriage not putting the decision of the girl into consideration, and all they do is push them out for one reason or the other; forgetting that they have not got any experience to live a marital life. Marrying a girl of twelve or fourteen years old is impolite to both side, a girl that have not been expose to know what life is all about.

I can see a howling future,  a smear  futures, a child became a mother at the age of 13, her name is zainab  she get married to old man of 40 years and she is the third  wives , she was in the mixed of her parent , but they call  her a rival. When she was pregnant the husband doesn’t have the means of taking care of them, financially, feeding and health. She was there suffering at a time she was in labor it was difficult for her to put to birth. Why? Because she is too small to put to birth, and her pelvic are small, so that the baby can pass through her private part, the doctor decided to operate on her. That was how she put to birth and after that she didn’t have the means of taking care of her baby, likewise the husband too.  She was there suffering and later decided to be selling pure water, hawking one things or the other.

*****All these difficulty she has faced with are due to the fact that she’s lacking good education which could have otherwise earned a good future to make her financially dependent, while having the opportunity to well mingle with people. *****

******lack of education, cannot make her blamed quickly to hose that are educated and she cannot also mingle herself with her educated peers.  So she can’t afford good education and health care for her baby for her Husband he doesn’t have the mains for that he is doing okada man who doesn’t really care about her.

This is total mistake which people do in life and it is known as child abuse in my opinion   Parent should stop given out their children out to get married at an early age because it might affects their future advance…


    Customs surrounding marriage, including
    the desirable age and the way in which a
    spouse is selected, depend on a society’s
    view of the family – its role, structure,
    pattern of life, and the individual and collective
    responsibilities of its members.
    The idea and function of ‘family’ varies
    across the world and is in a state of constant
    In Western Europe and North America,
    marriages have historically taken place
    later in life. Average age at marriage for
    16th century women in Europe (other than
    among a small landowning elite) was 24
    years (26 for men), rising to 27 by the 18th
    century (30 for men).42 At that time, the
    family was the unit of economic production,
    as it is in many agrarian societies
    today. But households were usually separate,
    not combined; the newly-weds needed
    a place of their own and had generally
    saved some resources to start family life.
    Later marriage in Europe has had an
    important impact on attitudes to consent.
    Because women and men marry as adults
    with experience of life, it is alien to accept
    unquestioningly a parental choice of
    spouse. The free consent of both partners
    to a marriage has been legally requisite
    since Roman times.43 This consent, and
    Early marriage as a strategy
    for economic survival
    Poverty is one of the major factors underpinning
    early marriage. Where poverty is
    acute, a young girl may be regarded as an
    economic burden and her marriage to a
    much older – sometimes even elderly –
    man, a practice common in some Middle
    Eastern and South Asian societies, is a
    family survival strategy, and may even be
    seen as in her interests. In traditional societies
    in Sub-Saharan Africa, the bride’s
    The extended family begins to break up
    into nuclear components, and some couples
    leave for the towns. Individual wage
    labour replaces family-based production
    and instead of being an economic necessity,
    children become a ‘cost’. Women may
    join the labour force, and receive an education
    beyond that needed for household
    management. In these circumstances, marriage
    and childbearing may be postponed.
    Many developing countries are part
    way through the ‘demographic transition’:
    witness recent declines in fertility. Parts of
    any national population – better-educated
    and better-off urban dwellers – may adopt
    the norms of the industrialized world,
    including later marriage and child bearing.
    However, other groups may continue
    in the old patterns. Extended and nuclear
    families may exist side by side, even in the
    same generation. Where average age of
    marriage appears to be rising, this may
    disguise the fact that very large sub-populations
    are still marrying very young.
    Old beliefs, customs and moral codes
    tend to persist during demographic transition
    Young girls may endure misery as a result
    of early marriage and the number of those
    who would seek help, if they thought it
    existed, is impossible to calculate. Until
    more is known about their situation there
    can be no reliable estimates of the scale of
    their predicament, or of the social damage
    that is carried forward in the upbringing
    they give to their own children.
    One thing is clear: the impact of early
    marriage on girls – and to a lesser extent on
    boys – is wide-ranging. Within a rights perspective,
    three key concerns are the denial
    of childhood and adolescence, the curtailment
    of personal freedom and the lack of
    opportunity to develop a full sense of selfhood
    as well as the denial of psychosocial
    and emotional well-being, reproductive
    health and educational opportunity.
    Early marriage also has implications for
    the well-being of families, and for society
    as a whole. Where girls are uneducated
    and ill-prepared for their roles as mothers
    and contributors to society, there are costs
    to be borne at every level, from the individual
    household to the nation as a whole.
    Psychosocial disadvantage
    The loss of adolescence, the forced sexual
    relations, and the denial of freedom and
    personal development attendant on early
    marriage have profound psychosocial and
    emotional consequences. The impact can
    be subtle and insidious and the damage hard
    to assess. It includes such intangible factors
    as the effect of a girl’s loss of mobility and
    her confinement to the home and to household
    roles. Obviously there is a marked lack
    of data in these areas, and social researchers
    have failed to examine the impacts of early
    marriage in this context.
    Most girls who are unhappy in an
    imposed marriage are very isolated. They
    have nobody to talk to as they are surrounded
    by people who endorse their situation.
    In Ethiopia, Inter-African
    Committee researchers were struck by the
    lack of interest from elders in the traumas
    suffered by young girls as a result of early
    marriages, premature sex and childbearing.
    These traumas were regarded as an
    “unavoidable part of life”.90 Girls who run
    home to their parents may be beaten and
    sent back to their husbands. Distress is
    generally endured in silence.
    Indian researchers on child marriage in
    Rajasthan and Madhya Pradesh state that
    girl spouses suffer more than boys:
    “Inadequate socialization, discontinuation
    of education, great physiological and
    emotional damage due to repeated pregnancies
    devastates these girls.” If the husband
    dies, even before consummation, the
    girl is treated as a widow and given in nata
    to a widower in the family. Officially she
    is then his wife, but in fact under the practice
    of nata she becomes the common
    property of all the men in the family.91
    The child bride who is widowed very
    young can suffer additional discrimination.
    Widows suffer loss of status and they,
    along with their children, are often denied
    property rights, and a range of other
    human rights. In parts of Africa, a widow is
    remarried to a brother-in-law, a custom
    known as levirate, originally intended, in
    part, to provide economic and social support.
    If the widow resists, she may be cast
    out by the family. Child widows with little
    education and no means of earning are
    especially powerless. At a 1994
    Conference in Bangalore, India, participants
    told of being married at five and six
    years old, widowed a few years later, and
    rejected by their in-laws and their own
    families.92 These widows are, quite simply,
    left with no resources and nowhere to go.


    therefore parent should take note of these

  • simbarashe

    haiite iyoyo chengetedzai vana