I guess it seems like a fair question. "When did you choose to be gay?" Of course, asking me that is like asking me when I decided to have a face.
I have always had a face. I was born with it, and I plan to keep my face for the rest of my life. Things may happen and my face may change, but for now I have my face, and I am comfortable with it.
The same thing goes for my sexuality. I’m gay, I’ve almost always known I was gay, and I am comfortable with it. For now I don’t think I could dientify any other way, but I don’t know what the future holds for me, so I honestly can’t say that I will identify as a homosexual male for the rest of my life.
I never chose to be gay. Living where I do, that would be a VERY dumb choice. Dealing with all of harassment, threats, and snide remarks I do makes it into a choice I can honestly say I would not make.
I don’t know anyone that CHOSE their sexuality. Whenever I’m asked when I chose to be gay, I like to reply "When did you choose to be straight?" It goes both ways, let’s all remember that.